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I just watched an excerpt from CNN about the rapidly rising demand for AI girlfriends, or artificial intelligence that will have in-depth and personal conversations with you.

While it could be a healthy alternative outlet for a lot of young men who never stand a chance at dating real women, a lot of people think it will ruin dating more than dating apps already have. I also recently saw a question on here talking about how to split expenses with your significant other and it devolved into several arguments. Calling even the basics into question.

Considering all the rapidly changing challenges of modern dating and the plummeting birth rate, rise in mental illness and other economic woes, it begs the question:

Will we as a society figure out modern relationships or will society loose cohesion and fall apart before we get the chance?

As children, we are told that we must be "fair" to other people, and that usually involves treating them the way we would want to be treated. So, when we start dating, most of us believe that relationships should be "fair." For most, that implies that both participants should make a substantially equal effort for their partner. But some people have different ideas about what "fairness" means, and some people get extremely upset when they decide their partner isn't being "fair."

All relationships can't always be fair. I am getting married on April 27 and my fiancee (who lived in China until she was 29 years old) knows NOTHING about American weddings, and that is what she wants: an American wedding. So I must do all of the planning. I could complain that isn't fair, but what does that accomplish?

I think "fair" isn't a useful concept for relationships. It should be replaced with two questions: are you getting your needs met in the relationship, and is your partner usually contributing to the best of his or her abilities? If the answers are "yes" and "no," then it is most likely a healthy relationship. What do you think?