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I'm on the the heels of a horrible break up from a relationship I never really wanted to be in anyway.

I'm sore but well on the mend.

This whole thing has been going on for about 6 months.

Long story short, on my street is a really popular and vibrant restaurant. There are a ton of wait staff there, all male.

There are a couple that would kind of scope me out but I felt it was curiosity since I am fairly mysterious.

One server in particular has pathetically, IMHO, tried to get my attention when I would pass by by clearing his throat.

Once he decided to stare and not look away.

I don't jump to these silent cat calls.

He's tried to smile at me and stuff but I've been stoic because he is a smoker and I am judging him. I'll be honest.

Fast forward, I have started getting takeout there from time to time. When I walk in, some of the kitchen staff will look at him when I come in.

I purposely look away and I see him in my peripheral vision staring at me.

When I was waiting for my order, all he could do was stand really close to me when he was ringing in his table and I was ordering take out.

I caught him once staring, he looked away so fast and swallowed so hard. He was so embarrassed.

Th other evening a friend of mine treated me and we ate there.

We were seated at the back. He kept coming to the back sneaking looks at us. He works the patio.

My friend ordered some takout and we were waiting for it on the patio. He came to take our order and went straight up to me. My friend then explained we were just waiting for take out. He smiled and left.

Then he stood at the top of the stairs so he could totally see and hear us but he was pretend not watching.

We both pretend to ignore each other, actually.

I am just still reeling from all the recent emotional abuse and I feel this push-pull behaviour is a sign he is another immature, undercover narc looking for attention from someone he views as vulnerable.

Poll below!

I had a huge crush on a guy for several years. I’ll refer to him as “A”. We used to flirt like crazy and I could tell he was into me. It was all in the intense eye contact and the body language. He also displayed jealousy if I was “flirting” with someone else.

A couple of years ago, I met another man to who I am now engaged. The first time “A” saw me with my partner, he completely ignored us and presumed he was just a friend. When he found out we were together, he constantly gave him dirty looks and was icily polite if he had to talk to him.

When A found out I was moving in with him and getting married to him, he became quiet and moody in his interaction with me. I saw him today and he barely said a word. I asked him if he was ok, and he said “yes, everything’s perfect”. He said it quietly gave me a fake smile.

Is he upset by the fact that I’m with someone else? Is he obsessed/in love with me?