My new boyfriend used to study in a computer room at our uni. There were a few other Asian students and a some european students who studied in the same room too.
Out of this was an Asian lady who seemed like she was interested in him. She would come over to talk to him, want to have lunch with him and I think he told me once that she tried asking him about his personal life 2 years ago and he had lied to her saying he was with someone.
One of her friends knew that I liked him and she told her to tell me that he's seeing someone and that he's weird and not to approach him.
I still did and a few months later we started dating.
Before we had started dating, he had told her once that her dress looked nice on her. She took this as a sign of interest and started asking him to come with her and her female friends for drinks. He did go out with her and her friends and she asked him for his number too. He ignored it at first but once at the bar, she began asking again and he gave it.
However he left the bar shortly after and in the next few days, she messaged him to meet for lunch. To which he lied saying he's going for lunch with his girlfriend. She stopped messaging him and became kind of distant with him.
However, when he asked her about the recent news at uni, she again tried asking him to go out for lunch with her and her friends who were going outside to eat.
He declined because he was going to see his friend.
Later on, she saw us together and at one point, we had argued and she had seen that too. After that, she became hostile with me and stopped saying hello to me completely. One time, she was walking in my direction but when she saw me, she switched direction and gave me a really rude look before walking away.
I have noticed her female friends that each time they see me, they keep looking at me. And this happens every single time. Whenever I pass by them, they HAVE to look at me.
What is their problem and should I just ignore it or tell my boyfriend?
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In my personal opinion based off all you mentioned, I would definitely assume that she has a pretty strong interest in your boyfriend and is probably pissed that you got him, despite her multiple efforts to get him for herself. Asking him out for a drink or lunch doesn't really strike me as much other than being friendly (I mean I've asked guys that I thought of nothing more than a platonic friendship out for lunch or out for drinks) but it's the obvious hostility that is striking. I can't see any other reason for the hostility if it was t simply due to her wanting your man. I would say ignore it for now and if it becomes a problem, mention it to your boyfriend. However, it also raises some question too because with the obvious hostility toward you and having her eyes on your man already, I personally would not trust her to not do something shady. So maybe it would be in your best interest to bring it up nonchalantly, just to put the bug in your bfs ear so he is aware that this woman could potentially be bad news. Best of luck.
Well she didn't do much except just talk for a few minutes until he said she looked nice in the dress and after that she began coming over to him and asking to go out.
Before that, not much.
She had also said that white men love Asian women so she was kind of expecting he would like her. I had noticed another Asian girl constantly trying to talk to him too but he never did more than small talk and be nice.
Also why are her friends looking at me each time they see me?
Her white men comment is a little weird. I don't know why she's taking it in that direction because to me, that just makes it seem like she is following a stigma and that's just gross behavior in general.
As for her friends looking at you every time they see you, I'm willing to bet that this woman has absolutely trashed your name to her friends and ran her mouth about you to them and now when they see you then are stating you down because they believe you're a shit person for some reason or another.
Do you think she told something about him too? Like saying how I got him and why he accepted me than her and how because of, he isn't liking her?
She and her friends are desperate for a white man. I ve heard so many Asian women saying they want a white guy and some are even going after men on their 50s
maybe