My Decision After My Boyfriend Spanked Me. What Do You Think?

[Gloree]

[Anonymous]

'I can't just leave. He provides financially and truly loves me' Translation = I can't just leave. He provides financially and puts up with my dishonorable behavior.

There is an abundance of codependent, ego driven, toxic and dysfunctional relationships that come from poor relationship with self, lack of connection or acknowledgement with God, obsession with pleasure and parental upbringing. Each to their own...

The only way to have a healthy relationship is to find God and self, merge the two and find another whose done / doing the same. Anything less than that and it will simply fail.

[Gloree]

Thanks but I assure u, we have settled.

[jasco]

Ok than if that's what you wanna do

[Anonymous]

@gloree

Wow that was really immature and stupid of you. He’s literally ATTACKED YOU. Next time it could be a PUNCH to the nose. To the side of the head. You could loose your vision! If he hits your eye.

He could’ve broken up with you, for the car, could’ve yelled, could’ve sent you to jail. Anything!

That looks like you don’t respect yourself. You should’ve at-least TAKEN A BREAK from him. For a month or something. To show him that it’s not okay and that you’re hurt.

Thats a narcissist, abusive, controlling, manipulative man. A man is NOT supposed to put his hands on a woman. EVER! That’s a coward.

A man that loves his woman would never, ever ever ever.. physically hurt her.

You know what you’ve done? You’ve told him that you don’t respect yourself, you’ve told him that what he did didn’t affect you whatsoever, AT ALL. You’ve told him that he’s allowed to do it again. You’ve told him that you lack confidence and security. You’ve told him that you can be walked all over like a stepping Matt. Youve told him that he’s not at fault for it AT ALL. You’ve told him that physical violence is okay. You’ve just affirmed that he right for doing that. You’ve told him that you’re like a child that knows no better.

And if you ever EVER. Have children with this person, he’s gonna be more than happy to physically assault them and commit child abuse. He’s gonna hurt the child or children physically and You’ve Not The Slightest Idea !! What type of trauma that’ll put upon an innocent child.

My Dad was Verbally Abusive yelling at the top of his lungs at my sister and I for some of the stupidest shyT, and now my sis and I have several different traumas. ANXIETY, my sister had SELF HARM, I had DEPRESSION here and there. He’d also bully and belittle us. He wouldn’t hit us… but definitely just attacking us with screams and words put a toll on us. all throughout our sorry lives!!!

And you said you’re doing this for “money”, then that means you don’t even love him either. You’re a golddiger! You’re just there using him as a bank. As a father. He ain’t you’re father!! You need to grow up and find another man that isn’t violent, or grow up and find yourself a better job, TWO JOBS. But you need to grow tf up!! Cause even if you’re “mindless “ and care little about yourself, if you have babies , then the ones being affected are the children.
NOT YOUR DUMBA—S!!

😡😡😡

[Gloree]

Thanks. I appreciate ur concern and I'm sorry about you and your sister. I hope ur both better now.

I understand what many are saying but he has never hit me before. I think I caused it and I have decided to avoid the things I did. Once I stick to that I believe I will be fine

[Guffrus]

@Gloree To clarify, did you have permission to use the car or did you 'take it without consent'? (we call it TWOC in the UK).

Because my understanding is that this is about the car having been damaged as a result of someone else driving into the car while it was parked.

Perhaps I misunderstood something or am mixing it up with a different post.

[Gloree]

@Guffrus actually, yeah. took it without his consent buy some one else bashed it.

[Guffrus]

And you have never had consent to drive the car?

[Opinion Owner]

@Guffrus
It doesn’t matter. You could have driven the car into a lake. He’s not supposed to attack you. He should have at-least yelled. But physical abuse is something else.
Good Luck! And I would have left.

Material things and property should mean NOTHING if someone loved you

[Guffrus]

@emyywolf I am well aware that 2 wrongs do not make a right.

Had she had consent though then she would not even have done anything wrong.

[Gloree]

@Guffrus it was a new car. I was supposed to wait for us to go for a drive together but he had to go somewhere. I couldn't wait and went alone. That's where the problem began.

[Guffrus]

Who's car is it?

Is it your car?

How did you even get the keys if it is his car?

If its not your car and you aren't allowed to drive it, were you insured?

Why would you take someone elses car that you aren't insured to drive etc? That makes no sense.

[Gloree]

He showed concern the first day. Then the next day, surprised me with the hit.

[Opinion Owner]

@gloree
Like I said. Next time it’s gonna be a punch, then another punch. He could end up hitting your eye. You could loose teeth. your sight. He might break bones. You can end up with head trauma….
Etc….

https://youtu.be/E3b2Mj5Mu-k

https://youtu.be/VeZxrsQpEeQ

And this Is your decision

[Gloree]

@Guffrus his car. Key was at home. He had gone out with his pbike. He does that sometimes. Why can't someone drive other people car as long as they allowed to? The car is new. He planned to insure it later.

[Guffrus]

@Gloree Quote: Why can't someone drive other people car as long as they allowed to?

Did you have consent or not?

Why did you think driving his car would be ok?

He planned to insure it later? So there was no insurance at all on the car? He wasn't even insured to drive it?

[Gloree]

@Guffrus here is voluntary insurance. That means u buy ur car, u decide whether or not I want to insure it and I choose the company to deal with.

[Gloree]

I meant, u. Forget all the I I I

[Guffrus]

Ah yeah I see.

So the person who damaged the car just drove off and there were no cameras etc so you dont know who did it?

[Gloree]

@Guffrus No

[Andres77]

How old are you?

Are you doing this as a project? To see the responses and develop them into a storyline?

Sure, it's a spanking.

But you're an adult. If you don't want him to do it again then he should never do it again. Simple. If this was happening to my daughter then he and I would have a sincere conversation. Shortly there after he would suddenly have a hard time dressing himself.

If you're into getting spanked like an ignorant or belligerent toddler then do it and leave your silly drama out of here.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Tingles and excitement ins something spontaneous win over boring 200% of the time. It sounds a bit too much like an adult/child relationship if you ask me, but hey... as long as you two are happy!

[princessxx2]

Babe, guys don’t like to get spanked ☺️🤣🤣🤪


Girls love to be spanked especially while doggy style and I am like this at least but if you don’t like to get spanked, he should respect it and if he forgets twice or more, lady - RUN move on

[hahahmm]

He's foolish to stay with someone who steals his money & car and when she gets caught she says, "I just borrowed it". Congrats, you found a sucker.

[Gloree]

Look, I won't do all that again. Why are you insisting on telling the whole world about it. I tried to leave all that out as much as possible but you always bring it up

[ccs884]

it’s assault if anyone who hits u without consent. if it makes you uncomfortable, and he might do it again, i would probably end the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Well there you have it, stack enough paper and you can literally treat a woman however you like, they have no principles where coin is concerned.

[Gloree]

It's not like that. You're going overboard.

[Opinion Owner]

Quote : I can't just leave. He provides financially and truly loves me.

[Gloree]

What do u expect me to do? He's nice. I caused everything. All I have to do is avoid those things. I'll e fine.

[Opinion Owner]

No, I think the person who drove into the car and caused the damage 'caused' at least most of it and 'nice' people dont blame people for the actions of other people.

2 wrongs dont make a right, never have, never will, so it doesn't matter what you did, at all. Aside from something like self defence, there is no action you can take which will justify an action taken by someone else.

The main point is that you have not consented to being in a bdsm relationship, he clearly wants that dynamic but be can't be honest about it.

A boundary / consent violation in the world of bdsm is the biggest red flag you could ever have, it is an instant shit can situation, there is nothing to even think about.

This guy does not respect you, at all, you are not a person to him.

What you think and feel, what you are experiencing does not matter to him.

He is another pathetic, dangerous little boy like that other sad cunt from this thread who is on my shit list now, who thinks he is a 'Daddy' but doesn't have the first fucking clue what that even means.

ANY REAL Dom or Daddy knows how vitally important consent is, being sure that everyone is having a nice time.

Consent is literally the line which determines if someone should be in a prison or not.

This guy you are dating, he is not a Dom, he is not a Daddy, he is not even a man.

What I expect you to do is understand the importance of consent. If you had been raped or punched in the face I wouldn't be having to explain anything to you. There is literally no difference.

As Emyywolf told you, you have opened the door now, by accepting the unacceptable you have given him carte blanche to do whatever he wants and he knows that.

[Gloree]

He didn't do it because of the guy that bashed the car. if I had waited as agreed, it won't have happened. I'm making peace with the role I played. Besides, he promised he won't do it again. He didn't like seeing me cry. I believe him.

[Opinion Owner]

Well perhaps in time you will learn to be whatever it is that he wants you to be rather than whoever it is that you are atm.

Maybe that is a good thing, stealing cars isn't ok but whether it will end there remains to be seen.

He absolutely did not promise not to do it again and he didn't even apologise.

Quote : 'I'm sorry that I had to give you tough love' is not an acknowledgement of having commitment the most serious of boundary violations, fault has not been admitted at all. The term is 'victim blaming' you are being held responsible, as far as he is concerned his actions are your responsibility.

Quote: So it might happen again? If you do it again.

So the statement is perfectly clear; this absolutely will happen again if your behaviour does not please him.

Where is the part where he accepts responsibility for his actions?

Where is the part where he makes peace with his role?

Why would you think he had promised that it wasn't going to happen again when it has been explictly stated that it will?

[RavVid]

I think you have made the right decision. Essentially you disrespected him and he duly chastised you with a spanking. You are in a place where you both can accept what happened and move on.

[Th3ft]

I mean that tells me that you do want to be spanked again… which tells me this is all a load of crap. Haha!

[Gloree]

I can't just leave. He provides financially and truly loves me

[Th3ft]

He doesn’t if he thinks that abuse is okay treatment of someone who did something that you didn’t like. In fact people who see life like that often think that they are a gift to humanity and that everyone owes them something.

[boggboss]

That your a idiot but thats fair enough many people stay in relationships where they don't like what someone does but too afried to leave

[Lyndsielee666]

So I’m assuming you didn’t consent to the spanking the first time?

[Gloree]

Big no

[Lyndsielee666]

Yea hard pass. Leave before it gets worse

[Phoenix98]

I guess my question is what did you do that made him spank you? The conversation looks like you did something that made him react in that way.

[Gloree]

Nothing too serious Girls, will you leave your man for spanking you? ↗

[Phoenix98]

Could be worse. I mean he shouldn’t have put his hands on you but a spanking isn’t that bad considering you wrecked his car.

[Gloree]

I guess

[Subarugirl]

So you’re staying with a man who physically assaulted you…. That sounds like great idea…

[Gloree]

I get your point but other things were involved. And we don't live together. I go by his place when he's around.

[Subarugirl]

So you’re justifying the fact that he physically assaulted you.

[Gloree]

U don't have to patronize me. At least he didn't punch me or kick me. I've seen worse things happen. And he is always nice and gentle. U don't know him. I caused all this. It's not going to happen again if I don't do all those things. That's my understanding.

[Subarugirl]

Not not patronizing, just an observation based on the information you provided.

[Subarugirl]

If you want to stay in an abusive relationship that’s your choice as a competent adult. But the least you could do is not debase yourself by drying to white wash your experience.

[Gent207]

Arighty then

Worst decision of the day award goes to you 👏🏆

[MikeInHawaii]

This may be the biggest mistake of your life.

[_Aragorn]

Did he send you this screenshot? Must be, because YOUR text should be on the RIGHT SIDE!

[roy_ricky09]

Exactly... 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

[Waldoe]

Good decision... BRAVO... now don't act like a 8-year-old brat, you'll be OK

[Gloree]

I've told u I don't like that word. u need to stop. I'm not a brat.

[Gloree]

I don't like u.

[Waldoe]

I did not call you a Brat...

[Gloree]

Twice now, you did so

[Waldoe]

no... I said do NOT act like one, I did not say that you are one

[Twalli]

It depends on what you did that he thought that spanking was reasonable.

[Gloree]

I will rather forget what I did.

[Twalli]

I am not asking you to tell me what you did. I am asking if that or anything similar is something you might do again.

[Gloree]

Not at all. minding my own business and my time henceforth

[Anonymous]

Sooooo. . . gonna borrow the car again this weekend?

[Gloree]

Never. I won't dream of it

[Opinion Owner]

Oh wow! That sounds promising!

[Gloree]

Whatever, I will stick to mine.

[Opinion Owner]

Probably a good idea!

[MountAverage]

Is this fetish play? Then why are you trying to pretend to us it is not?

[Rania05]

Aww 🥰
This relationship sounds quite fluffy 💕

[Gloree]

Loll

[Rania05]

I'm the kind to gush out over other people's relationships, because my friends always turns to me whether it family, friendship or love from helping out of pity at beginning to actively giving advice I developed it somehow at some point, I do gets this warm feelings a lot

[Gloree]

That's so sweet. I like u already

[Rania05]

Hehe, thanks

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you learned the lesson he taught you.

[jennyjenjen98]

I hope you're okay with being spanked again

[swettannie]

it will happen again

[fonduegirl]

So the spanking part was not consented?

[exitseven]

Whats wrong with you?

[NYCQuestions1976]

Is this a kink or abuse?

[Xtendable]

Are you ready for more spanks?

[Gloree]

Not going to happen.

[Xtendable]

Good to hear. You’re worth is important

[jahaims]

You read too many erotic novels

[EnglishEuropean]

huh some fake drama

[Brad951]

Why did he spank u

[Gloree]

I will rather forget

[Brad951]

Did u do something bad

[Gloree]

Not really

[Jessica405]

Go for it!

[Anonymous]

Lol 😂 you belong together