How to stop associating with a male colleague with covert narcisstic traits?

[Anonymous]

We became friends about a year ago and he's a vile person. Time has revealed who he is. He's very toxic. he's affecting my mental health now.

I need him out my life. We go for lunch together at work, but i dont want to anymore. Everyone in work thinks he's amazing. I've seen him turn people against each other by his manipulation tactics. So I can't just cut him off all together. I don't want to text him outside of work either, but don't want to ignore him because he's vengeful. He has covert narcissist traits. I just don't know how to go about disassociating myself from. him without him knowing it's intentional

[RavVid]

Snakes in Suits: When Pyschopaths Go To Work might be worth reading. I haven't but see what you think here www.amazon.com.au/.../0061147893

You could just start having to work through lunch to avoid those lunch dates. And miss some out of work texts or reply very late. Gradually tailor it down.

I have watched a friend take down a narcissist at work he detested. In conversation he would bring that guy up. Never said anything against him but facilitated any vents. It turned the admiration was very thin and a lot of people equally detested this guy.

People tend to take others at their valuation. So a narcissist admiring himself can cause others to follow suit.

I wouldn't have the skills to what my friend did but you might.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Guy13]

Grey stoning. You tube that word and a female India clinical psychologist has a piece on handing one as you are dealing with. This is applicable to family and work. I find her both educational and helpful.

[Asker]

Thank you

[RavVid]

That's a good technique. I've learnt something - thanks.