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My girlfriend Bianca acts like she’s not into me. For example, when people ask us how we met. She tells people “I didn’t wanna date him but my friend Becky told me to”. When that’s not even the truth. She’s the one who approached me and said “we should hang out”.

Bianca makes me feel like a simp. She acts like she’s not into me. She rarely has interest in sex. She says it turns her off how I breath so hard n deep during sex. We have sex once a week if I’m lucky. Then she acts like she’s doing me a favour because we have sex. Bianca always shows interest in other dudes and she’s not affectionate like I want her to be.

Feeling so emotionally neglected, I broke up with Bianca and immediately started a relationship with a girl named Shelly. Shelly was the best thing that happened to me in so long. The sex was amazing, she’s very affectionate, and she makes me feel like the man. But, the only problem is, Shelly lives in another city. She wants me to move to her city but I hate the city she lives in. It’s too crime infested, I know I can’t live there. And Shellys not willing to move her either. So Shelly is not forever.

A month after I started dating Shelly long distance, Bianca called me crying in the middle of night. Saying that she misses me and wants me to come over. My dumbass went back to Bianca and now I’m juggling two girlfriends. I’m emotionally tied to Bianca and sexually addicted to Shelly. If Bianca was giving me the love, sex, and affection I wouldn’t be messing with Shelly. I can’t drop either of them. What do I do?

Asymmetric romantic attraction is one person has feelings and the other does not. The person who has feelings isn’t thinking clearly because chemicals are (naturally) being released in their brains compromising their judgment. But the other person can see everything as plain as day because they aren’t attracted to them hence little/no brain chemicals.

So person who has no feelings has to make a decision on how to handle a person they have influence over. The moral thing to do is be tactfully honest with the other person (and do it early). But we don’t live in a moral world so the following usually happens:

Scenario #1: Man manipulates the woman into sex when she is thinking there is going to be a relationship. Worst case scenario he gets her pregnant and abandones her.

Scenario #2: Woman manipulated the man into thinking she likes him when she doesn’t. She does this for attention, favors, free meals, free counseling, etc (stereotypical friéndzone).

Worst case scenario is she is a gold digger. Yeah she has to give him up to him at the point but she gets a huge payout for faking it. She will likely divorce him and screw him over in alimony (and she likely cheated during the marriage). She never had feelings for at all. Just a good actress.

Now roles can be reversed at times. Some women do use men only for sex and some men do seek out “suger mamas”. Some men do friéndzone women for their own ends. However for is just not as common. However I will say it is at least biologically natural to want to have sex with someone even if you don’t want a relationship. However using a person for money, ego, attention, favors, etc is downright conceited.

Anyway I got in a long “debate” with a feminist on here who believed that men should be held liable if they mislead a woman into sex. But she had no problem with women taking advantage of men via the friéndzone or worse (gold diggers). Not kidding.

I argue that BOTH genders need to watch out for themselves.