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I feel like my ex was emotionally abusive. I used to really be into her more than she was into me. She used tell me “I didn’t want this relationship, you did”. And when people would ask how we met she’d say “I didn’t wanna date him”. I explained to her how it hurts me when she says these things m. And she’d say “you’re just insecure”.

What’s even worse, she told me about how before we started dating. She went on dates with guys who she really liked and they rejected her. So am I the nice guy who finished last?

I used to be highly attracted to her. She never wanted sex with me, at the same time, complaining that her ex boyfriend didn’t want sex with her. She barely wanted to be affectionate with me.

Even worse, she used deliberately turn me on so she could sexually reject me. Would tell me “come over I’ll lick your balls and your butt” and refuse sex when I show up. Every single time we’d have an argument, even if it’s minor she’d say “you’re getting none”. So I started keeping silent to avoid conflict.

She used to complain that I’m not making her happy and give me reasons why. Which I’ll admit I’m not perfect, I know I have my flaws and bad habits, but. When I’d tell her what she’s doing to make me unhappy she’d reply “you knew I was a bitch when you met me”.

About 3 weeks ago we went to a Thanksgiving dinner at her friends house and I felt like she was kinda flirty with a guy. She seemed very touchy with him. I even saw her put her arm around him. I mentioned it to her a few days later. About how I was uncomfortable with how she behaved with him, and again. Told me “im insecure” and broke up with me. Denied ever putting her arm around him when I saw her do it.

It’s been a couple weeks and I’m still emotionally hurting over her. Haven’t been able to eat or sleep. Having nightmares and visions of her in bed with other men. I’ve dated and had sex with other women since. But I still can’t get her out of my head. What should I do?

Like seriously, number one rule on a first date... DO NOT, talk about your past relationships. You are not there to rehash your past, it about trying to make a connection with the other person and building a possible future.

Like seriously, this woman would not get off your past relationship, every time I tried to make conversation go a different way it came back to her and previous heartbreaks.

She starts straight up crying, she is like I am so sorry, it not you, it's me. She excuses herself to go to the bathroom. She comes back and she is like,

"I am so sorry it is not you. Actually, you are being so nice and sweet, and you are very good looking, it's just that..."

"I interrupt her, it's that you are not ready to be dating yet period, right?"

she's says, "I am so sorry, but yes. I just had no idea, until right now."

I said, "Yeah, I get it. You're like the fourth woman I met online, that comes online and thinks they are not going to meet a real person and when they do, they freak out because they are not ready yet."

She says, " Yeah, you are right, but it's not you. I am so sorry; you are so nice and handsome..."

Again, I just say, "just stop, you do not think I do not know I am a nice person? You do not think I know that I am a nice-looking man? Like I have heard that shit my whole life, and I do not need to hear it from you. Obviously, it's not enough for you, so basically after weeks of talking and you assured me you were ready, you basically wasted my time today."

I walked her to the car and wished her well in life.

How many of you have had something like this happen to you?