I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months now and I have yet to meet his family and friends?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend is in the military and he's from Tennessee so he's quite a ways from home, when we first started dating he was all about introducing me to his family and friends and then a month before we were supposed to visit he told me he didn't think it was a good idea that I go, the whole time he was home he barely talked to me. He is deployed now and he just told me when he gets back in May they are getting another block leave and he's going home again, I didn't ask him about going and he didn't mention me going with him either. All I can think about is him ignoring me again. What should I do?

[Danny_dan92]

This is where girls struggle with dating military men. Most of us are closed off and very protective, even with spouses/partners.




Cause blood family is on another level.




That being said, you aren’t his wife. Don’t take this the wrong way but in the military, infidelity is quite common. Not just done by the service member, but also by the person back home. Especially now with social media, dating apps, etc. compounded if the person back home has a healthy following and is deemed attractive/sexy by the majority of people. They’re gonna have to remind themselves of the fact they’re in a relationship with someone serving the country when someone they would sleep with/date. Approaches them…. I witnessed dudes I deployed with find out their wives cheated on them while we were gone, overseas in the shit.




Not a good experience. So don’t take it personal. If you want, ask “hey can you take me with you? I want to meet your family”




If he says no, then respect that and carry on.

[Anonymous]

How old is he? I’m taking this as a red flag. I spent 10 years in the military. Most of us weren’t married, some girlfriends who some of us ended up breaking up w or cheating on. Military life is a very hard thing, especially for a relationship. I remember going to so many countries, so many women willing to have sex w you. So many prostitute as well, red like district, whisper alley, snake alley, etc. I was w a girl while in the service. I introduced her to my family after a while since she lives in the same town as us. I introduced her so they could be there for her if she needed help, to look out for her, invite her over to bond w my family to help ease my time being away. Didn’t work. She cheated. Got knocked up by another dude. I think he may have other fish on his plate besides you. Does he communicate w you a lot while deployed?

[Paris13]

If you Were this Important to Him, He would have Introduced you to Them. He may Not be Ready to Explain you. I am Thinking Perhaps They do Not even Know about You... xx

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xxoo

[Anonymous]

It doesn't sound very serious. Maybe he is hiding something.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You said they're in TN, you didn't say where you are. My ex of 8 years had only talked to most of my friends on the phone since we don't live in the same place (as my friends). She met my mom when my mom came out for Christmas, but a thousand miles away is logistically different than across town.

Now, that he essentially uninvited you then said he's going back there for block leave bodes quite... well... poorly for you. Every time I got back from deployment there were deficiencies that... family didn't fill, let's say, so I find it hard to believe he doesn't have a piece on the side back where his family is. An old flame maybe that popped back up. Sorry to say it.

[Constatine]

Sound more like he has more girls stacked somewhere. Sure it is a bad idea..

I think it is a red flag if he is home and not speaking to you.. i don't know but something feels very wrong here

[exitseven]

I never took any of the girls I dated to meet my family. I imagine most of them probably thought that I was raised by wolves.

[Iron_Man]

well, you better meet them soon and find out what’s going on

[Slim57]

Strange but sometimes it's hard to setup with a military schedule is all I can think about it

[pianogirlmeow]

military men + not meeting family = he has a wife

[Anonymous]

That my friend is a red flag.

[gamerboy1x]

Uh im here for exp