Met a guy while I was travelling. He's European and I'm American. We are both digital nomads in our late twenties. We then went back to our home countries but continued talking. We've messaged eachother almost every single day for the last two months, many conversations go on for hours. Things were going great, we were making travel plans, he was interested in dating in person again and then moving on to a committed relationship. He never never pushed any sexual boundaries; we never had sex or exchanged nudes.
Then he started being more 'gooey' and said 'love you' to me twice. I decided to check-in and clarify because English is not his first language. He said he was starting to feel a very 'deep serious connection' to me. I reaffirmed him and said I felt the same but we both agreed we had not 'fallen in love' as this would take more time and more in person dating. We both agreed to take things slow and build a solid foundation first. But during this convo it seemed like he really opened up and expressed his vulnerabilities. I was over the moon and felt so appreciated...
So naturally I was surprised when right after four days pass and I don't hear from him. I took the initiative to ask him today if he was ok. This is the longest I've gone without hearing from him. Maybe he's busy but it's weird it happened after such a big emotional conversation. I know I waited long to message him and I do message him first sometimes but many men like a little bit of chase. Also, I try to respect people's space. Anyways what the heck is going on? I've dealt with hot and cold guys but this is the first time I dealt with someone like him disappearing, someone who was so communicative for 2 months and expressed a desire for commitment. What gives?
