Why she won’t open up for me about her anxiety?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend - we had been together for over a year - had a sudden anxious moment while we were with our friends, I tried to comfort her, even though I didn't know how, I continued saying everything will be fine, and it's just a moment and it will be fine, but all she wanted from me is silence, she didn't say anything, later she run away crying and i rushed to her, and all she said was she didn't know what was wrong with her, we came back and then her new friend came up to her and hugged her and spoke for a few minutes, I heard laughter and felt relieved, because she was feeling better.

But why didn't she tell me? Am I unworthy to know what's wrong and offer help?

I’ve been in some situations in my life that i don’t speak about till now (Rape, sexual harassment, being kicked out from home with my family.. etc) it do really makes me feel anxious and depressed, but I’ve never let those feelings ruin my relations with anyone.

For real girls sometimes do stupid acts by leave their man overthinking and doubting himself and all they wanted to do is help, it's no worse for him to try his best to help even if he doesn't know how, right? gotta make him it feel worse than that.

[Xoxocutekitty]

First point, just because someone is thinking more about a topic than you would, it does not automatically make it unfounded, unjustified, or brand them as an "overthinker" - it simply highlights that they care about this issue or issues presented to them, more than you.

For the longest time I was with partners who would write me off as a chronic overthinker. They'd write me off as anxious or paranoid or stupid for overthinking and walk off instead of doing the one helpful thing, which is to get to my level, listen without trying to solve, and do what actually needs to be done to make me feel better.

You can't tell an anxious person, hey here's the solution. you sit with them, let them know what they're going through it difficult, but you'll be there every single step of the way with them. Wipe the tears off her face, tell her she's beautiful, and tell her she's got you to lean on.

This is the emotional EQ women want. It's not about being smart, it's about being kind. It's saying the right thing to make someone feel better and it takes practice.

When was the last time you did that for a friend? Women instinctually know that some people are better at this skill (same way some people are better with kids). They often go to thus person because it's really awful to hear the wrong thing when you're klalready knocked down.

[HollyK21]

It’s not about being worthy, she just probably isn’t ready to talk about her anxiety/trauma. To be honest that’s probably why she reacted how she did and was so upset, because she doesn’t want to address it yet and hates that it even happens. I’d say to just be patient, and don’t overthink. When the time is right then the talk will happen and I’m sure she will be relieve to see you there with open ears and being nonjudgmental.

[Asker]

Hopefully you are right, and hopefully that day will come, when we all share our dark thoughts with each other and what cause them, thank you for your opinion <3

[HollyK21]

Give it some time and that talk will come. You could always reassure her than when she’s ready to talk then you’ll be there to listen, but leave it at that and move forward. Also, no worries!

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Anxiety does fucked up things to our brains. And maybe she had a bad time opening up about it in the past, and now is too afraid to do so.

Encourage her to seek therapy as an additional support. It'll help her process what's coming up.

[1stranger]

Those who are anxious try to overcome it within themselves.

[JoyGirl]

She should open up about it to you, you are right. Talk to her about it, and if she isn’t ready to talk yet, give her time. 💜

[Guy13]

Yo will leave her

[Guy13]

You….
realize that’s she’s likely OCD…. People are always scared to share their frailties. Lots of people have a mild depression that manifests in anxiety and requires prescribed “sleeping”pills

[Asker]

Kinda got that point, as I stated, some things have to remain unknown, so i know how that feels like, but what I didn’t get is, why she will tell her new friend but me

[Guy13]

She must really luv you. “Perfect” in your eyes. I think it’s sweet.

[In_Trance]

You're not worthy

[Asker]

Sike!! Hopefully it’s not true xD