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I have spent years dating, in monogamous relationships, and in marriage, and I never cheated on a partner. Not once. But I would never claim that I couldn't be tempted to cheat. I don't want to cheat, I couldn't face myself in the mirror if I did that, but I am not so arrogant to think I'm better than everyone else so that could never happen to me. No, I am careful to avoid situations that could lead to cheating, such as having lunches with a woman and no other person present, going out for a drink after work with a female co-worker, etc.

COULD you cheat under the wrong circumstances? DO you rely on your moral character to avoid cheating? Do you avoid situations that could present a temptation to be unfaithful?

(If you believe in polyamory or open relationships, please do not respond to the poll. I am interested in the attitudes of people who at least profess to prefer a committed, monogamous relationship.)

Here are few reasons to consider regifting:

You don't like it. There's no reason to keep something you don’t appreciate. Some items are perfect for passing on.

You already have the item. The person who gave you that blender bought it because they knew that you love smoothies. They just weren’t aware that you already had one.

You don't need it. There are all kinds of things you may think are wonderful but can’t incorporate into your life. For example, delicate leather gloves can be lovely, but may not fit your rugged lifestyle.

You know somebody else will appreciate it much more. You might like the item but know a person who needs it more than you. Regifting can be an act of generosity.

You broke up with the person who gave it to you. There may be gifts you received from a significant other but now that you’re not together you want to purge, especially when the items evoke bad memories. You are under no obligation to keep them, Farley says.

How Not to Regift

“Almost everyone has recycled a gift or two,” says Lisa Mirza Grotts, an etiquette expert known as the Golden Rules Gal based in the San Francisco Bay Area.

However, there are a few regifting no-nos:

Regifting to the original giver. Imagine giving a present to someone who gave the item to you. “That’s a terrible faux pas,” Grotts says. Unless you keep very good records, avoid regifting within a specific social circle.

Regifting in the original wrapping. You may have an idea about what is inside the wrapping paper, but don't be so sure. Take the item out first. “There could be a card inside addressed to you that you didn’t see.” Rewrap, then regift.

Putting an item inthe wrong box. Although it can be tempting to place an item in a luxury retailer's packaging, you're setting the recipient up for embarrassment if they try to return the gift at that store.

Regifting used items. If the item shows any signs of wear and tear, is dirty or has parts missing, do not regift it.