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21 year old Black girl here. Throughout most of my life I've been mostly attracted to other Black girls, but also really anyone with darker skin. They didn't necessarily have to be EXACTLY as dark as me, but someone you can look at and say like "yes they're a shade of brown or tan, looks like they could tan easily" and not "yes they're completely pasty white and pale, looks like they'll just burn easily." Which to me normally meant I wasn't attracted to White girls, unless they were biracial/mixed and therefore not completely White anyway.

However... more or less recently, I realized that with TANNED White girls it's a completely different story. I first realized this with one of my White friends who in the winter was completely pale like a stereotypical Goth who avoids the sun at all costs, but in the summer suddenly gained a beautiful golden brown tan like a stereotypical preppy girl who absolutely loves pools and beaches. My physical attraction to her went from I kid you not: basically 0 to 100. It's not like she looked bad when she was very pale, she was in fact still very pretty, she just didn't do anything for me. But with her skin a beautiful golden brown color... oh yes. She just looked so... for the lack of better words, "HOT." Like someone who isn't afraid to go out and run around in the sun.

Since then I've tried to see if this was something exclusive to just my friend, or just a general thing... and it turned out to be a general thing. Whenever I saw a completely pale White girl, no attraction... an at least slightly tanned one though? Oh boy...

There's nothing wrong with completely pale skin, and I realize tanning can be quite unhealthy, especially if extreme... but it's just a physical attraction thing.

I attached 3 pictures to show the type of thing I mean. As you can see, none of the 3 women are COMPLETELY pale. They all seem to obviously get some sun. Good view of the thighs too. Not just a tan face and arms.

I am no where in the position of being in a situation where I get the joy of picking out rings. However ever since my brush with death in my dual truck accident I been reconsidering life. The things I've done and what I want. I also have been plagued with pain nightmares and mini nervous breakdown or panic attacks.

During a recent panic I pulled my car over to relax. I looked up and it happened to be in front of a mall I had bought my engagement ring. Feeling nostalgic needing to relax I went in to the store. There were many memories which washed over me. Good and bad.

I stopped at the ring styles I always wanted. During my first engagement He would have bought it for me had I asked but I didn't dare to. He even implied "that's the one you want isn't it"

I horrifyingly shook my head no in shock. A lie yes but I was very apprehensive at the idea of asking for something so costly with not contributing anything to it. It would have eaten at my conscience. We picked a set which ran significantly less.

Staring at the certain rings I realized I still want what those rings stands for... A forever and happily ever after. A partner whos my equal. I want someone who we balance each others and equally contribute to one anothers needs.

I also realized I'm not the same girl as then. I'm wiser at putting cash a side and I'm more confident. This time I can turn to a man I love and confidently say to him that's the one I want and I'll help pay for it.

My previous husband would have been offended by this. Though he was much older than me and from a different custom.

Do people considered it rude to A pick out one's own ring?

B would it be rude to offer to help pay especially because their requesting a certain ring which may run a bit steep?

As for me I've made up my mind lol that's the ring I want... I don't have the man to go with it yet but I'm hoping to find him! 🤣... And he doesn't have to worry I'll buy it if he can't afford it and then his as well!