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I know some of you are going to go off about never using dating apps or trying to find people online period. That’s a separate debate so please don’t bring it up. Not everybody has the time or environment to socialize with singles on a consistent basis.

Anyway I’ve gone real back and forth about ever mentioning sex or even acting flirty with girls I match on dating apps. On one end if she already finds me attractive, is in a good mood and hit her vibe right it can make her more eager to meet up.

However the downside if I just make one wrong comment many women panic and hit the “creep” button. It’s game over and there is little or no room for forgiveness. Often the guy has no idea he’s out. It doesn’t matter if it was an honest mistake or I had no idea she didn’t like a certain comment. Many women just freak.

An even worse scenario is she might just want all virtual sexting and has zero interest in meeting for real. The virtual attention is good enough for her. Most men aren’t satisfied with that. They want to meet someone for real.

Then there is the safe route (and it can be genuine). Just act friendly, funny and don’t mention sex. Many women find this to be non-threatening and are more likely to meet in person.

But a downside with this is she might find me more boring. Some women are deluded/selfish to believe that guys are okay just making “friends” with women on dating apps. Nope. That’s a huge waste of time and effort. That doesn’t mean men are always looking for hook ups. Some of us really want to start a relationship. But there is always at least some romantic interest. Men don’t seek out random women to become “friends” with.

So anyway what’s the best route?

Say if a really attractive guy dm you. He says something like he’s trying to meet new people here. Would you open/reply to it

So a girl from an online group started flirting and talking VERY sexual stuff with me intensely for (probably) no real reason about almost 5 months ago, and when I tried to warn her with a friend for a really toxic dude one month ago she instead got curious about him and is probably now talking to him almost every day and most likely doesn't believe me anymore. I think this because she kinda mocked me and my friend when I warned her a second time.

I contacted with her two times after that but it was rather not so deep and smooth as how it used to be. She replied in two minutes the first time and wasn't mean per se, just a bit vague and provocative. Apart from this, she used to say she even wanted to meet my parents and have my surname in 5 years, and talked about our family of millions of children about which I joked first.

All my friends are saying she's an attention-whore who never cared and just uses me and other men for her own self-esteem. Some said I could try to ask her to figure out about her true intentions from the beginning. Others said to just ignore her and maybe delete her everywhere.

What do you guys think? I'd appreciate your advises.

By the way: I used to have a crush on her but now I just distrust her. I'm about to end this shit in my head very soon. My choice would be either option 1 or 2, but I'm still thinking about it.

I can give you more details about the story if you want.