What's the point of my life? Is it hopeless for me to have a better future?

[Nobody2Everybody]

I honestly never had any friends or a girlfriend. No matter what I do, I can't meet people. I never see girls.

I use to live in the northeast region of the United States almost all my life and I hated it.

I have a speech impediment.

I just decided that no one would ever want to be my friend in the United States so I stopped trying to talk to people. I never had anyone want to be my friend or get to know me.

I couldn't even get any sort of job. My degree was worthless because I could never even get an interview. I graduated with a high GPA but it doesn't matter.

I don't have anyone in my life. No friends, my family is almost nonexistent and mostly trash people!

I left the US after becoming homeless and I live in disability.

I just can't meet people. I want young friends, not friends my own age, and I don't want my first girlfriend to have had any sort of sexual experience.

I didn't ever want to do online dating in the United States because it was a waste of time. I never get any girls to even match with me in any Eastern European country and I almost never see girls in real life.

When I do, I can't think of what to say on the spot because I think back to the United States where when I was young, no one wanted to get to know me. But that doesn't matter.

I don't have money to do anything to change my life. It all goes to just avoiding becoming really homeless but I am starting to think that my life doesn't matter anymore and that it's completely hopeless.

I have abs, I am thin, girls tell me that I look much younger than I am, but it's pointless because I can't get friends or a girl to like me.

I often feel like there's no point to my life and I question why I am even alive. I think it's really too late for me in life. A person like me is just too far gone and too much of a nobody. I always feel like a failure but not because I didn't try, it's just a series of tragic circumstances.

[PrettyPriya]

I was reluctant to answer this because I can almost guarantee the reply I will get will just be more "woe as me" type of complaining like you have done in the novel you wrote in the details.

Life is what YOU make of it. It seems like you don't want to put any effort into things and just give up at the first sight of adversity. If you have a degree, why can you not get a job? I find it hard to believe that you can get any sort of employment anywhere. I am not from your country and don't know what it is like, but some form of a job must be possible.

As far as meeting girls, what do you mean you never see them? Like never ever? That seems strange that you haven't crossed paths with a girl. I always suggest finding local activity clubs or groups to get involved with to meet people.

As for all the other things you list, life is tough. You have to pull yourself up sometimes and take charge. Sitting around complaining and hoping something is magically going to change your fortunes isn't the right attitude.

[Nobody2Everybody]

Yes, but I don't exactly know how to do that with limited money. My country for almost all my life was the United States but I really hated it because no one ever gave me a chance at friendship or for any sort if job. I moved to Eastern Europe and it's true that I almost never encountered girls. I am not a high school or university student. I don't want to go to bars or nightclubs to meet girls because I don't really drink and I don't want to meet girls that do hookups, one night stands, and open relationships. I only speak English and I have no way to afford language lessons. I am living where I can afford without working and my United States degree is useless in Europe. In the US, I applied at thousands of jobs and never got an interview for any. I also could never afford to move anywhere in the United States and rent. Like I said, poor family, trash relatives, and no way in my circumstances to achieve things alone. I didn't want a roommate. People in the United States need roommates if they can't afford to rent a place alone but most people have roommates that are their good friends or a significant other. I only moved to Romania because I thought it was the best place in Eastern Europe at the time and because of COVID-19 restrictions and because I didn't need a visa and cost of living. I don't know the national language and I know that I want to try another new country in a year or two.

[userxvi]

You talk big for someone who's never been tested

[PrettyPriya]

@userxvi I have no clue who you are addressing. If it is me, you have no idea about my life so you have no right to assume I haven't been tested.

This user moved to a country with no job, no discernible income and doesn't speak their language. You think that is a good move? Yeah, thought not. How in the fuck are you supposed to get a job in a country where you can't even communicate with people? Are you that dense?

[PrettyPriya]

@userxvi I see your brilliant advice. That will solve all the problems. @Nobody2Everybody there you have it. You have been going about it all wrong. As long as you seek self fulfillment, everything will be solved.

No need to even achieve self fulfillment, just seek it. That will automatically get you a job, teach you a language and get all the girls and money you want. What a load of utter rubbish. 🤣

[userxvi]

I take it I struck a nerve saying you have not been tested based on how triggered you are.

And yes I think self fulfillment is the answer to his problems. Obviously there are common sense survival things that have to be done but that is another topic. I could take his cup fill it with money, friends and women, he would only find himself scratching his head wondering why he still feels the same.

[Sandeeppingping]

@Nobody2Everybody My guy you're talking to a guy who had to move to Italy at the age of 18 on his own when he couldn't speak the language and I was 18 so I had no degree except my hs degree which ain't no achievement, I'm 20 now back in England and my year and a half in Italy was stressful af at first but I almost cried as I was leaving as if like a part of me is still there, you can find a job if you can't find one with your degree then fuck your degree get another job even if it'll be a much shittier one, start a website selling bs, buy a book of the language you wanna learn, it's easy, I'll get back to continue later

[Changiis07]

You are talking very negative. First of al life is a gift from God. You are here for a purpose we all are. You need to speak life into you, you have to be more positive and think good things will happen to you. Have you ever watched The Secret on Netflix? It talks about the law of attraction, I encourage you to read it and I also encourage you to pray. God listens and can help you get through anything in life once you open your heart to him. Friends come in all ages and I don't believe you should close off any friendships just wanting to hang out with certain people that are younger. So start counting your blessings, start talking life into you. Get out of your head, you control your mind so start being kinder to yourself. You have us here as well if you ever want to message, just let me know because I don't get notifications for messages

[Nobody2Everybody]

Yes, it would probably be helpful if I could message once in awhile. I could probably use someone to ask for advice about life and how to talk to people I don't know.

[Changiis07]

Yes life is all about learning and growing. No one got comfortable talking to people it takes time and it takes believing in yourself. Life is wonderful when you start doing things you enjoy. Relationships can be great but being single is also amazing. You don't have to worry about anyone or putting effort lol but yes always have someone to talk to to vent and to get through the days. Trust me we all have bad days we've all had depressed moments. Life is not easy we just learn to get through it

[Nobody2Everybody]

Yes but I can honestly say that I never had friends and never had a girlfriend. I am 32 and never even had my first kiss. I also only want an inexperienced girl, not a girl with experience and I want to have love with a girl that it would be as special and significant for her like it would be for me. I know life isn't easy but it's people in a person's life that help make it nice or tolerable. I have always been single, never had a relationship, so it's not amazing for me. But I do agree that being single is better than settling for an incompatible person.

[Changiis07]

I understand, you want to find love but sometimes we have to work on ourselves before getting there. No one wants to be dating a negative person. So work on enjoying your life more, enjoy the little things, talk to a stranger start making friends as they can lead you to your significant other and like I said pray for your wife as God can guide you to her but he wants you to seek him and to open up to him. You will get there

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Same here pal, I feel you. I have 0 friends and had zero girlfriends as well. When I crave intimacy and physical contact with a girl, I visit escort girls, even though it'll never replace true love.

[Guy13]

You have two options to work through this and I suggest both: -firstly read book of John in Bible for Love. And talk with God in prayer. -see a counselor to work out through as well

[U4ea0]

If only that would work. You can pray to God all you want and nothing.

[Nobody2Everybody]

I will read the Bible book that you suggest to see what it's about but I don't pray to that God anymore because I never had any prayers answered. Other people who are religious told me to pray to God but I don't believe in it anymore. I never had any counselor ever help me in the United States and those cost money, especially in Europe. I need friends to help me or some girl that I would be compatible with to give me a chance.

[U4ea0]

You need money beore a woman is going to be possible. Unless she is a dope whore in which case some heroine or meth would work. Get at least 1/4th of a zip.

[Nobody2Everybody]

@U4ea0 I have the average income for some of Eastern Europe and the average monthly family income for some non-EU nations of Europe. I just can't really save anything because I got a larger apartment than what I really needed.

[U4ea0]

Sell drugs. You will make a shit load of money. And they will front you zip.

[Guy13]

Firstly, one has to be in right relationship with God to be heard. Right now you are against God... at enmity with God. You have to change your positioning and that requires commiting and knowing Christ Jesus as Lord and Savior. From there, you are positioned so that your Prayers will be heard. God is NOT a vending machine. You receive both Grace and Mercy although it is not in the measure of one who is In Christ Jesus. You do receive rain, money, family, children which is a "shared grace". Enemies of God should not be given those things to produce more enemies to God damned into eternal fire and hell separated from God forever.

[Guy13]

@U4ea0 You too can be saved from your own self-destruction and eternal fire...

[U4ea0]

@Guy13 I was being facetious.

[Nobody2Everybody]

@U4ea0 I don't sell drugs and wouldn't. There's no money in it with competition and people need to be good at socializing and talking to people. Why would you suggest it?

[Changiis07]

you don't pray to a God. Anyone can be anyone's God. You pray to Jesus Christ the one who dies on the cross for our sins. Trust me, we wouldn't be telling you this if we didn't experience ourselves. He fills us up with joy, happiness, peace. The enemy just come to steal, kill, and destroy. The Lord our God comes to bring light into us. Praying, talking to him. Giving him all your worries, all your stress give him everything and believe it. He will help you get through anything. Have faith, be patient that he listens and will deliver

[Changiis07]

the one who died*

[Rebel_Queen]

If you want to talk to someone I'm here, you can message me whenever and I'll message you when I can!

[Nobody2Everybody]

Thanks. It would be nice to talk and ask advice. I almost never get anyone online to talk with me so it would be helpful. I can't send messages until I reach level 2 but I should reach it in a week.

[Rebel_Queen]

If your following me I can send you a message

[Nobody2Everybody]

Yes, I am following you.

[Rebel_Queen]

Ok one sec

[Avicenna]

Be the person you want to be and live your life. A girlfriend will come.

[Waldoe]

"Helen Keller" deaf and blind... no excuses, just made History... Loved by Millions... work on yourself... the rest will come, only YOU can fix this

[Nobody2Everybody]

How can someone fix themselves? I have no social skills and a speech impediment. Everyone has since they were children to learn social skills, how to talk, how to joke, and how to approach people. I need other people to accept me and want to integrate me into their country. Now my hair is starting to fall out and my heart is having a combination of covid-19 recovery pain and the pain of stress and sadness. Do you have any idea what it's like to have hair begin to turn white at age 20? That's when my hair started to turn white. Since 2020, about 50-60 strands of my hair fall out every single day. I am getting older and the older that I get, the closer I get to death and I don't want a girl that's too old, and for me that's 18-20, and I want her to be a virgin. If it's going to be significant for me, then it must be of equal significance to a girl. I don't want to waste my first kiss, first relationship, and first time on some slut who would already have done it everything and for her, I would just be another guy and another notch count. I don't want that. My experience is that if a girl is a slut or a non-virgin (most, not all), then they won't like me or even talk with me online.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Someone like you could really use the Lord’s assistance.

[Nobody2Everybody]

I don't really believe in the Jewish God anymore. Christians and Muslims both worship the same God as the Jews but with different principles and stories and practices. I don't know if the Jewish God ever helped at all.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

No, they’re not the same, and even if they are, it’s a Spiritual Scam. Almost as much as selling your soul.

[userxvi]

You must seek self fulfillment.

[Anonymous]

Another reminder of what I can't stand