I met this guy 2 months ago and ever since we've been talking everyday and hangout at least 3 times a week. I'm a virgin and he's been aware of that since the first week we started talking and he knows that I'm looking for a relationship. He pays for everything for me when we go out and is completely understanding that I want to wait to have sex until the time is right. I don't feel pressure from him and he makes me super comfortable. The problem is that him and his girlfriend of 2 years broke up a month prior to us meeting. They broke up because he was moving back to Pennsylvania from North Carolina which is where she lives. I recently had the "what are we" conversation and he told me that he didn't want to put a title on anything yet because of his recent breakup. I ask him what his intentions were and also told him I didn't want us to just become all about sex when we get to that point and he told me it isn't just about sex and if it was, he would've gone out and just hooked-up with someone.
He's also introduced me to most of his family and all of his friends.
My question is, should I stick around with him in hopes that it will turn into a relationship and how long until I have the "what are we" conversation again?
or is getting a relationship out of him hopeless?
As for the sex goes, the furthest we've gone is making out. I asked him what his intentions are and that I didn't want this to turn into just sex when we eventually get to that level and he told me it's not just about sex and if it was, he would've just gone and hooked up with someone else
It seems like it was too soon for him to show interest in me since he just got out of a relationship but we basically met on accident when I was going out with one of his friends for my birthday that I had a secret crush on and he ended up tagging along which pissed me off at the time because I was interested in his friend but we ended up hitting it off and he asked me for my number.
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Is it just me or are you in a relationship in all but name? You hangout 3 times a week he understands your stance on sex and doesn't pressure you, it sounds like you are really close and compatible. Typically after a relationship goes bad, even if its for reasons out of our control, even if we find someone we like and think we could love right away, the sting stays with us for a while. You just had the conversation, so just like he isn't pressuring you for sex, don't pressure him with the "what are we conversation." Just like he is waiting for you to be ready for sex you should be waiting for him to be ready for the conversation. He makes you feel so comfortable return the feeling.
1. Since he just got out of a relationship and isn't pressuring you in the sex dept., wait for him to feel comfortable.
2. Not only is getting a relationship not hopeless, except for the What are we conversation it sounds like you two are in one.0