I know this sounds terrible. But I really want to know how I can get back at this guy, in a subtle way after he used me to boost his ego. The story is probably a little too long to bore you all with in one posting but ask any questions that need asking!
I was dating this guy for about 3 months, in that time we basically were into everything but sex. He then stopped messaging me and stuff and I could just feel him distancing himself. So I said something and sure enough he wasn't sure about the relationship. This hurt me because I really liked him but I knew that I had to keep my distance which was going to be so hard because we are in the same friendship group.
Two weeks later we went on holidays and I wasn't going to get close to him unless he initiated and sure enough he did. But he never got any sexual pleasure out of it. We just cuddled in bed and stuff. Once again I stupidly got too attached even though I knew he was probably leading me on. He was hanging around me throughout the whole week and I thought things were good. I asked him what was going on after the holiday and he admitted to leading me on which really broke my heart.
After this I was quite angry and I tried to cut off all contact with him. Soon enough he started contacting me and I just really missed him so I let it continue. We then started seeing each other more at parties and stuff and every night we would end up cuddling and kissing. The night of my birthday I stupidly let him sleep in my bed. Nothing sexual happened but he cuddled me and tickled me the whole night and I thought things were good. A few weeks ago he asked if he could come to my place to watch movies and I did because I felt like things were going good and we cuddled.
Now after this night my mum came home and just warned me about him playing with me to get an ego boost so that he wasn't one of the only guys without a girlfriend in our group. She said that if he isn't calling me and taking me out to dinner and basically treating me like he is really into me then I shouldn't so easily let him hang out with me. So I took this on board and started to cut off contact like I wouldn't initiate conversation or anything.
Our group had a party one night and a few of us girls were talking bout sex. The question was when was the last time we had sex? I answered truthfully, last December with my ex. I hadn't slept with this guy. He then got asked and said that he had slept with someone just 2 weeks ago. Which would have been the night before he came to my place and cuddled up with me. It made me feel sick that he had no shame in saying that right in front of my face. At the end of that night I went up to him and made sure I wasn't being a bitch bout it but said that he had hurt me and that physical contact had to stop. All he could say was "yea" to everything and didn't apologize. This made me angry but I had a real lack of respect for him.
I saw him last week and he didn't even say hi to me. We ignored each other all day!
I was dating this guy for about 3 months, in that time we basically were into everything but sex. He then stopped messaging me and stuff and I could just feel him distancing himself. So I said something and sure enough he wasn't sure about the relationship. This hurt me because I really liked him but I knew that I had to keep my distance which was going to be so hard because we are in the same friendship group.
Two weeks later we went on holidays and I wasn't going to get close to him unless he initiated and sure enough he did. But he never got any sexual pleasure out of it. We just cuddled in bed and stuff. Once again I stupidly got too attached even though I knew he was probably leading me on. He was hanging around me throughout the whole week and I thought things were good. I asked him what was going on after the holiday and he admitted to leading me on which really broke my heart.
After this I was quite angry and I tried to cut off all contact with him. Soon enough he started contacting me and I just really missed him so I let it continue. We then started seeing each other more at parties and stuff and every night we would end up cuddling and kissing. The night of my birthday I stupidly let him sleep in my bed. Nothing sexual happened but he cuddled me and tickled me the whole night and I thought things were good. A few weeks ago he asked if he could come to my place to watch movies and I did because I felt like things were going good and we cuddled.
Now after this night my mum came home and just warned me about him playing with me to get an ego boost so that he wasn't one of the only guys without a girlfriend in our group. She said that if he isn't calling me and taking me out to dinner and basically treating me like he is really into me then I shouldn't so easily let him hang out with me. So I took this on board and started to cut off contact like I wouldn't initiate conversation or anything.
Our group had a party one night and a few of us girls were talking bout sex. The question was when was the last time we had sex? I answered truthfully, last December with my ex. I hadn't slept with this guy. He then got asked and said that he had slept with someone just 2 weeks ago. Which would have been the night before he came to my place and cuddled up with me. It made me feel sick that he had no shame in saying that right in front of my face. At the end of that night I went up to him and made sure I wasn't being a bitch bout it but said that he had hurt me and that physical contact had to stop. All he could say was "yea" to everything and didn't apologize. This made me angry but I had a real lack of respect for him.
I saw him last week and he didn't even say hi to me. We ignored each other all day!
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