We are both 25, so we started dating really young. I don’t feel the need to explore more relationships. I really love him. And while we’ve had our fair share of ups and downs. I see a future with him. Every few months he talks to me about how he really would like to spend his life with me but don’t think he’ll be able to commit fully because in the back of his head he’ll always have it that he didn’t explore.
He’s a very curious person by nature and loves to get to know people and more than anything else wants to know more women at the level he knows so that his life as a whole would be richer in experience. Because your experiences are what make you you.
He also says that he’s a man and men naturally have these urges and can even sleep with people without really getting emotionally attached, which he would also like to experience at some point in his life. Women can’t easily have a physical relationship without getting attached. At least I don’t understand how you could be so intimate with someone and not feel something.
Today he told me that if it weren’t for this predicament he’s in, he would think about getting married to me sooner (though neither of us really want to get married before 30) he thinks it won’t be a happy marriage because he’ll always have this regret of sorts. But he’s really confused if he should give up something really good he already has for a few years of enjoyment.
Anyway, I don’t know how to react to this. Every time he brings it up, I get upset to which he says this isn’t new information, I’ve always been honest with you, why are you upset again. You’ve always known this. I really don’t know what to do. I do really love him and we always have a great time when we’re together. But it hurts to know that he doesn’t feel like what we have is enough and nothing else would matter. I am a hopeless romantic, maybe I just expect too much from love. I can’t help but take it personally, maybe I’m just not good enough. What do you think?
