My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year in which we have been through his depression and anxiety. He says that I played a big part in overcoming both. Recently, he started acting mean, getting jealous or trying to put me down by telling me that I cannot be sexy ( in essence he meant I am a lot of things but sexy isn't my thing), or that I jump from one topic to another and I am weirdo. He often makes fun of my classical education, forgetting that I come from a family of musicians and I was educated with piano and theory of music so it is my biggest hobby. He called me "queen of cringe" for some weird texts I send him sometimes. I asked him how come everything surfaced now, over a year of being together- he said that probably now I feel comfortable being myself which deeply hurts me as it implies that he actually doesn't like me. I know I'm not the normal girl that he can do normal things with, he wants the girl I used to be the first months. He calls me uptight and tries to ridicule my friendship with a male colleague by saying that I am his therapist because I expressed how he shows respect to women and he's actually a nice guy because we talk about feelings and music a lot. So after this, I left him at the restaurant and went home cause honestly my mood was affected. He realized that what he said wasn't cool and started trying to be affectionate but I wasn't feeling it. I did tell that I deserve somebody that is happy to be with me, is proud of me and accepts me for who I am and is excited to meet and talk about stuff and to get my weird messages or jokes. Once I got home, I had a series of messages telling me how much he misses me and that he loves me and we should go out more and get drunk like we used to and have an honest talk but I am done discussing fundamental things like mutual respect and compatibility. Am I throwing something good cause I am overly sensitive or I should stick to my decision and leave even though it will hurt for a while?
Boyfriend behaving toxic and not sure how to handle it?
