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1. We’re not talking about someone who is uninterested bc a lot of people just don’t have the guts to directly say NO. It sucks, but Fair enough.

2. There are indeed a lot of people who get off on mutually playing mind games with each other so we’re not discussing them either.

We’re discussing scenario # 3. Two people LIKE each other but one is being direct and the other refuses. Won’t or can’t, I don't know.

I think with most people without being a genius or even particularly clever, you can very easily infer that when a person is being open & honest & direct, they don’t want to play games & doing so will most likely turn them off towards the other person…

SO I have difficulty understanding in this instance, what the ‘other person’ finds advantageous about being secretive, and why they may insist on it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I see it _alot_ in other pol as well I’ve experienced it first hand. I’ve never found any explanations after the fact - when they were offered- to really make sense, and they seemed more of an attempt at damage control than “ coming clean”

so I’m wondering if there’s some kind of unconscious work at play..

Assuming they are not jerks, Perhaps these people are simply not good at acting deliberately so even little things seem burdensome and they are reluctant to respond even if doing so could be beneficial, I don't know?

I broke things off with him cause it was never gonna become anything besides a situationship and I waited a year on him but when I gave up and started sleeping with someone else he said I was for the streets and if I was looking for potential in someone else. I started talking to him after I broke up with my abusive ex that wouldn't stop stalking me. He asked me out but he didn't want a relationship like I thought after we talked for 3 months, he was working on myself. I liked him a lot so I thought I could wait until he changed his mind but I waited a year and he never did. I started seeing someone else after he got too busy to hang out anymore after his new job. I told him I started seeing someone else after we didn't talk for 2 months , well I called and texted him hut he was either busy or tired to talk so I stopped he texted me after and then got mad when I started seeing someone else and said I was for the streets. I broke things off a week later and that was his response.

And I’m trying to not be pessimistic, I know my luck lol. 28F, I find him good looking (based off profile pics) & so far we’ve had good conversations after talking almost 2 weeks. I’m not showing him my pessimism & not putting pressure, I just worry that when we meet tomorrow it’ll be awkward. If not tomorrow, it’ll fizzle out within the first 2-4 meetups. I use the dating apps on and off, I’ve gotten a lot better with taking it as it comes but it’s just kind of at the back of my mind. Anyone else relate?