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I met this girl at work. I thought she was beautiful and I asked if I could take her out. We vibed and she eventually said yes. At this point to my knowledge she is single because she told me she want talking to anyone. We went bowling on our second date and I kissed her because I thought it was right. The next time we hang out she tells me that she doesn't want to lead me on and that she has gone back talking to her ex again because ehe blocked her for some reason. She said that it was a mistake kissing and hanging out and that she would like to be friends. I was hurt and confused. So about a week has gone by since we became friends. She told me the reason she felt that way was because I am not her type. We are on our second week of being friends and I can't take it anymore. I think I fell for her. She tells me that she talks to these guys and how they are cute and this and that. Am I simping? I see her everyday at work and I just get my mind clouded and i start to contemplate, then i get sad and depressed and then my say is ruined. I smoke weed to try and cope with my emotions but its not working this time. I want to love her but she doesn't love or even like me. I did this once in HS, I was depressed most of the time at school. Im just confused on what to do… i know what must be done but I can't. I need advice… please 😢

From what I've seen in my life, it really doesn't work, the ones I've seen almost always occur from the guy asking her out but she liked someone else more so she said no.

He doesn't give up hope and keeps in contact with her in the hopes that she'll one day be with him (she won't) and the girl uses him for validation. This is very dysfunctional and a terrible situation for one to keep themselves in and to her, he'll always be the guy who wasn't good enough to be with her.

Most girls say yes when I ask if a guy and a girl can be just friends but then when I ask if he likes her, I have yet to receive a "no" answer. Again, supporting my point. Some like to make the case that relationships start out as friendships but then when I probe that comment, again my point is further illustrated when they answer "no" when I ask if they've ever dated a friend.

Furthermore, men and woman are polar opposites in terms of interests, politics, and hobbies that can't be merged together unless it was a love connection in which both parties share their lives together romantically. For that reason, I believe that a man and a woman cannot and should not try to be friends. Although I don't believe in having friends at all as I consider having connections to anyone other than my girlfriend a burden which will only drain me and take time away from me and her together. I also don't consider people trustable nowadays as guys are constantly trying to steal people's girlfriend's and cheat on their own girlfriends as well. So i aggressively avoid bonding with others, sometimes treating others with hostility as a deterrent.