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"Look at her... she's so pretty!!"
"Why aren't you like your brother, he's smart."

I'm not sure this is just Eastern culture. It seems like complimenting the third person in order to compare your partner, kid or friend is a trick to motivate someone to improve themselves. But does it work?

For me, as the 3rd person, this behavior could bring me troubles, eg. the persons being compared turned to me instead of taking actions to change something about them. I know they're upset and then became rude and criticized me (at the first time we met). That's why I don't feel good when a married man/boyfriend compares their partner with me. It actually causes more self-doubt because I'm still single. Above all, I prefer to have other ladies to be my friends, not enemy.

If you have been compared, how do you feel, REALLY?

Would you confront the person who does so, and tell him or her about your feelings and thoughts?

I find it ridiculous putting someone I'm just dating ahead of my long-term friends I've known for much longer (whom I actually grew up with) and my own family. I'm sorry but nope, my close friends and family come first to me.

Unless I had a child with him or we're married, that would make sense (that would be different) but just a romantic interest, no kids and we're just dating? Ridiculous. I wouldn't mind if he feels the same way either.