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30F & I wonder if most women get where I’m coming from. I’ve never been in a real relationship, saw someone very briefly in my early twenties. Haven’t had sex either since then and don’t feel the need to, masturbating doesn’t do anything for me. Also doesn’t help that I’m not the friendliest, the only way I’ve met up with guys over the years were on dating apps. I get attention on them but it just feels off in a way, I’ve always felt like I am going to end up alone. I don’t want kids but like the idea of getting married, over the years people have justified my single status to being picky or shy etc. Those are excuses or cop outs, I feel like compared to the average woman though I likely get less attention from guys in person.

Literally the only attention I’ve gotten from guys I find attractive are on dating apps, in person maybe someone I was outside with would tell me that this guy looked at me etc (on and off throughout the years). But they never make it known to me directly, it makes me second guess things. It’s like I always wonder why I never have a boyfriend if I’m told I’m attractive, I also hear about a lot of introverted/socially awkward women that are in long term relationships. I really wonder if finding the right person is the answer to all my issues, I’ve spoken to guys in the past and tend to find ways to get out of it before I determine if they’re a good fit or not. Something about guys has always felt…different. Since I was in my teens, never got the craze with being boy crazy etc.

Just to give a brief intro - I noticed this guy randomly gazing and smiling at me. We eventually made friends and he is usually the first one to initiate any interaction. He always looks/stares at me when he walks towards me/in my direction. He holds very strong eye contact when we talk, he smiles a lot when we talk and he teases me. Over the last few days, things have seemed very intense

- We were talking and he more or less admitted that he doesn’t like talking to people in general. I said, “well I must be pretty awesome if you’re talking to me.”, he said “yes, absolutely, you passed the test with flying colours” but did not look at me when he said that.

- We made eye contact and he looked away so quickly/aggressively that I thought his head would fall off

- Yesterday, he walked past me/in my direction three times and each time, I caught him staring at me

- Today, I caught him looking at me a few times and he smiled at me when I looked at him

- I told him that I like his shirt and he smiled, and he was still smiling to himself when I walked away

- he walked past my office and he doesn’t work anywhere near me. He was walking right against the wall and stared into the window at me as he walked past. When I teased him about it, he said “I was bored and going for a walk”, he didn’t have to come by my office.

- we were talking and he stared into my eyes for what seemed like ages

30F and I wonder if most women get where I’m coming from. I’ve never been in a real relationship, saw someone very briefly in my early twenties. Haven’t had sex either since then and don’t feel the need to, masturbating doesn’t do anything for me. Also doesn’t help that I’m not the friendliest, the only way I’ve met up with guys over the years were on dating apps. I get attention on them but it just feels off in a way, I’ve always felt like I am going to end up alone. I don’t want kids but like the idea of getting married, over the years people have justified my single status to being picky or shy etc. Those are excuses or cop outs, I feel like compared to the average woman though I likely get less attention from guys in person.

Literally the only attention I’ve gotten from guys I find attractive are on dating apps, in person maybe someone I was outside with would tell me that this guy looked at me etc (on and off throughout the years). But they never make it known to me directly, it makes me second guess things. It’s like I always wonder why I never have a boyfriend if I’m told I’m attractive, I also hear about a lot of introverted/socially awkward women that are in long term relationships. I really wonder if finding the right person is the answer to all my issues, I’ve spoken to guys in the past and tend to find ways to get out of it before I determine if they’re a good fit or not. Something about guys has always felt…different. Since I was in my teens, never got the craze with being boy crazy etc.