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Example: A guy gets a girl pregnant. 5 months within her pregnancy, she goes missing. The guy is trying to reach her phone, her mom's phone, goes over her mom's house, and no response. 13-15 months later, the guy finally finds her and their baby. The baby is 11 months now. They have a conversation and try to be a family. She's looking for a way to get out of trying to be a family so she can find someone else, but doesn't tell the guy how she truly feels. 4 months past by and she calls for a "break" in their relationship. The guy is displeased. They have a verbal fight. Couple days later, she files for a Restraining Order. The guy gets served. Then the guy goes files for joint custody. The Judge dismissed her case because he saw through her lies and granted the guy's case because he showed evidence. 1 year goes by and around Christmas week she tries to say sorry to the guy and convince him to try and be a family again. The guy is passed being a family. He wants a new family with a new girl. He tells her that he doesn't want to try it again. She gets in her feelings because she got rejected. On Father's Day she tries her last chance by giving a huge hug to the guy and tell him Happy Father's Day. He knows what's happening so he just tapped her on her back so she can understand that it's over. 3 months later she's with a new guy that looks exactly like the guy's brother. She tries to convince the kid that his dad is her new boyfriend. The guy tells the kid that his mom is lying and wants him to stop calling his original father 'dad' so she can get the last laugh. The guy tells the girl he won't be surprised if her new boyfriend has the same name as his boyfriend since they look alike. It bothered her because he did have the same name as his brother. Now her and her new guy have a 1 year old baby. From many people's experience, they have agreed that the girl did hoe moves. And behaved like an immature and malicious individual. Would you agree? What's your take on this?

When I hear someone say "We are taking a break (or a time out) on our relationship to work on personal problems," I am always skeptical that both partners are being honest. Quite often, that is a way to break up that introduces the idea of a break up gradually so that the other partner is not overwhelmed at once with rejection and the partner initiating the break up can try to escape some guilt for breaking up.

I also realize that a couple could say this and both be very sincere in their belief that they are breaking up to allow time for personal growth. I don't really see why you would need to take a break from the relationship for that purpose; your partner should be there to support you in good times and in bad times and they should be able to help you with whatever it is that you need to do. They can certainly give you some "alone time" without the necessity of breaking up. However, I know that there is some popular notion that "temporarily" breaking up is an appropriate way to approach these circumstances.

What is your experience with temporary break ups to work on personal problems? Was it an excuse? Was it a valid reason? Did it work?