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I know some of you are going to go off about never using dating apps or trying to find people online period. That’s a separate debate so please don’t bring it up. Not everybody has the time or environment to socialize with singles on a consistent basis.

Anyway I’ve gone real back and forth about ever mentioning sex or even acting flirty with girls I match on dating apps. On one end if she already finds me attractive, is in a good mood and hit her vibe right it can make her more eager to meet up.

However the downside if I just make one wrong comment many women panic and hit the “creep” button. It’s game over and there is little or no room for forgiveness. Often the guy has no idea he’s out. It doesn’t matter if it was an honest mistake or I had no idea she didn’t like a certain comment. Many women just freak.

An even worse scenario is she might just want all virtual sexting and has zero interest in meeting for real. The virtual attention is good enough for her. Most men aren’t satisfied with that. They want to meet someone for real.

Then there is the safe route (and it can be genuine). Just act friendly, funny and don’t mention sex. Many women find this to be non-threatening and are more likely to meet in person.

But a downside with this is she might find me more boring. Some women are deluded/selfish to believe that guys are okay just making “friends” with women on dating apps. Nope. That’s a huge waste of time and effort. That doesn’t mean men are always looking for hook ups. Some of us really want to start a relationship. But there is always at least some romantic interest. Men don’t seek out random women to become “friends” with.

So anyway what’s the best route?

Some people have “ribbing” yet teasing attitudes towards other people particularly of opposite gender and/or people they are interested in. It’s like teasing your crush to show confidence and/or get them to open up their more “real” side. It can also be about testing people by playing hard to get to see if they can “handle you”.

Women often do this to men to as quasi shit test to see if they are smart ass enough to deal with their sassiness. Men do this to women as a sign of confidence and/or to give off a slight asshole vibe because they know many girls like that.

But I noticed this is more common in some parts of the country (and world) than others. Los Ángeles and New York City are notorious for this.

Personally I never liked it. Unless the girl hits the absolute right teasing chemistry and I’m in the mood to banter it’s doesn’t get me turned on. Different if I’ve already known her for a bit and we are already well acquainted. But if I’m interested I am not looking to play faux asshole just to create a jibe to be more interesting. Rather have a real conversation with maybe some practical joking about other things besides each other.

But I think some men and women always start out with joking and slightly hard to get attitude when they like someone. It also their way of avoiding being boring at all costs.

So did men do this in response to what women want or vice versa?