He has a girlfriend but from the way he acts, does he like me?

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone. So I have been working with this guy for a while and (even though he pisses me off sometimes and I wish I didn't) I've had a crush on him for ages. we've never really started a friendship, I guess I'm too nervous to get to know him. You could just say we are friendly, however, I've caught him looking at me before and acting differently when I'm around so I've wondered if he maybe is flirting. A couple of months ago I found out he was planning on asking one of my best friends out (which obviously left me heartbroken) and they've been dating ever since. The issue is he does things like, when I'm close to him and he's talking to someone else, out of the blue, he will mention his girlfriend as if to make me jealous. Also, the other day we were going to the same party. He got there later than me and his girlfriend was there before him. After being there for like 2 mins, he asked his girlfriend if I was there (she told me), she said he wanted to say hi to me, she went to get him, came back and said he got nervous. I caught him looking my way a few times that night. He also remembers details I tell him days later. Does he like me? Is there another reason? I would never betray my friend but I just really want to know so that I can get it off my mind.

[PrettyPriya]

You need to leave this be if he is dating your friend. Best thing to do considering he is a coworker as well. A lot of companies have rules against workplace relationships as it is. There is a good reason for that.

When things go wrong, they can really have an impact on what goes on at work. What if it is a really bad breakup and you can't stand to be around him anymore? Are you going to quit your job? Is he? Things to think about.

Regardless of the the potential issues dating a coworker, he is in a relationship. You don't want to be the one wedging yourself in between your friend and this guy. I would advise just leave this alone and let your friend and him be.

No sense in being "that girl" that breaks up a relationship. That isn't going to end well and you will likely lose your friend.

[Asker]

Hey! thanks for your response. I would never try to break them up or get in between them. I was more wondering if he might like me just so I can be at peace with it and move on so things don't get messy. What are your thoughts?

[PrettyPriya]

It is really tough to know what someone else is thinking. From the details you give, I would say that it is a possibility that he does like you. If he is flirting and giving those types of signals off, that is a pretty good indication.

The issue is that it really should be a huge red flag. Let's look at a different scenario. You and him are dating and he is flirting with other girls. Is that the type of guy you want to date? Someone that can't stay honest to you? Probably not.

So, look at the bigger picture and hope he isn't flirting and doesn't have a thing for you. That is a guy that is untrustworthy and not relationship material in my opinion.

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[PrettyPriya]

You are most welcome. 🙂

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Sounds like he is stuck with liking you and his girlfriend he can't make his mind up whom he likes, you mind end up getting hurt.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO

[Guy13]

Yes he does. Can you feel that sexual energy emitting from him ⁉️

[Asker]

I'm not really sure... maybe? why do you say yes?

[Guy13]

Playful and "suddenly girlfriend" serve two possible purposes: "I must be good... I must be good" OR "maybe she will bite since I possess a devoted nature with those I hold dearly". Make sense?

[Asker]

sorry still a little confused

[Guy13]

Reread your summary?

[In_Trance]

You're gonna get hurt

[Asker]

why do you say that?

[In_Trance]

Because you're getting feelings and he's fucking her

[Asker]

im prepared to get over him. im more wondering whether you feel he likes me or if im reading to much into it?

[In_Trance]

Reading too much

[Asker]

ok thank you

[Anonymous]

He's not the trustworthy type

[Asker]

but what are his feelings for me? thank you for your response