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I got chosen to be a bridesmaid and my boyfriend got chosen to be a groomsman in an upcoming wedding in June.
I rented a bridesmaid gown for the event…. I was told by the store owner that I’m responsible to go pick it up myself. It’s in the west end of the city and it is a bit of a ghetto area with strip clubs around…. but I do know how to get there myself.

My mom was insisting that my boyfriend should come pick up the dress with me just because he’s my boyfriend, but he can’t because he works on Saturday mornings till at least 12pm

My mom is making a big deal that my boyfriend can’t come with me and she’s nagging me to get a friend and then is insisting to have their number so she can make sure I’m not going alone to pick up my dress that day…

my boyfriend got annoyed with my mom because my dress isn’t his responsibility- the ladies go themselves for their dresses just like the way the guys go for their suits, secondly if he wasn’t working he would’ve come with me.

is my mom making a big deal out of this and being meddlesome and trying to create a fight? Or does she have a point?

I dislike that my boyfriend appears to ONLY value men’s opinions. Anything I or any other woman says to him goes in one ear and out the other. But let a guy say the same thing and he's all ears and ready to take the advice.

Anyways, it made me question whose opinions I tend to value? I am very stubborn and not many people can get through to me. I can only think of one girl who has just really gotten through to me but I guess I notice that it’s mostly been guys, thus I value men’s opinions more.

I don't know if my guy simply values the male view more because he’s so insecure and intimidated by other men, which he says all the time. But I value the guys perspective because I want to know how to captivate, communicate with, and better understand the gender that I’m attracted to.

Some may call that a “pick me” but I don’t consider it the same thing. I feel pick me’s seek validation while I more so want advice and guidance. Who better to understand a guy I’m into than a guy himself?

If I wanted advice on how to improve my appearance, dress style or to better control my emotions, then I’d seek a woman’s advice since we better understand one another’s insecurities and reactions. I rarely ask other women for advice on guys though because so many take it as competition to go after that same guy. Its so weird. Girlcode always seems to go out the window.

Another thing could be that I grew up looking up to my grandpa more than anyone else. I also got along best with my male cousin and my uncle. My friends have always been 90% guys. Like, my mom held it down for a bit but her inconsistent behavior and broken promises really got to me. So I stopped looking up to her. Maybe she, my grandma and a bunch of flaky female friends and cousins ruined it for other women too.

Some men have wronged me but never as many men as women. I guess same can be said for my boyfriend since he feels more women have wronged him yet all I ever see these days is men treating him badly. #FeelFreeToList