Search Results: attractive qualities in women

Or do they not? 28F, getting matches on the apps aren’t the issue it’s just always the usual: convos fizzling out, ghosting, not a good match, weirdos etc. I usually don’t message guys first, I swipe right on profiles first once in a while but I usually match with them once they like me first. I used bumble before almost 2 years ago & never again, the guy seemed normal but he was one of the most annoying people I’ve met & I only knew him for 3 days. The point I’m trying to make is: do you all actually put yourselves out there when matching with guys on the apps/in person or do the quality matches just come your way? Asking since you’re attractive & it’s usually assumed the guys will come your way… or am I generalizing? Can’t help but feel like good looking women don’t have to work to find someone

28F, maybe you other women my age don’t have this issue. I know I’m not a 10 but I’m told I’m cute/pretty & never get attention from quality guys in person. I get it every once in a while from the guys you don’t want, I’ve been told in the past that I’d get looked at but the guys never did anything about it (and sometimes those were actually the guys I’d consider). I’m on and off dating apps, on there I get the matches & msgs but it just doesn’t work out: I experience the typical ghosting, fizzling out, taking too long to reply etc. There were some times when one of us would admit we weren’t feeling it & while I was guilty of this sometimes, I just figured if I was really attractive I wouldn’t be having this issue. I’ll add that I’m reserved & not very friendly, also on the lower end when it comes to sex drive (which isn’t that uncommon for a woman). Don’t think those play a big part but figured I’d bring it up, I just think it’s kind of unfair & at the point where I’m feeling even less of an urge to try whenever I decide to download the apps again. I can’t help but think it’s not my fault 🤷🏻‍♀️

And quality ones, not just settling. 28F, I’m told I’m attractive but I’ve never had it easy dating. I’ve only ever used dating apps & while they’re trash to me, lots of people had success with them. I’ll add that im very reserved, seems like most good looking women can just go about their day & run into their next SO with no effort. I never get approached, can say I’ve never gotten approached by a man I’d actually want to date. On the dating apps getting matches were never the issue, it’s more fizzling out/ghosting/ the issues you deal with on the apps usually. It makes me question my attractiveness, over the years I’ve said eff it & have gotten better at dealing with it, I’ll never let a man question my confidence like that again bc I know there’s nothing wrong with me. Am I right or are good looking women actually putting in effort?