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30F and I wonder if most women get where I’m coming from. I’ve never been in a real relationship, saw someone very briefly in my early twenties. Haven’t had sex either since then and don’t feel the need to, masturbating doesn’t do anything for me. Also doesn’t help that I’m not the friendliest, the only way I’ve met up with guys over the years were on dating apps. I get attention on them but it just feels off in a way, I’ve always felt like I am going to end up alone. I don’t want kids but like the idea of getting married, over the years people have justified my single status to being picky or shy etc. Those are excuses or cop outs, I feel like compared to the average woman though I likely get less attention from guys in person.

Literally the only attention I’ve gotten from guys I find attractive are on dating apps, in person maybe someone I was outside with would tell me that this guy looked at me etc (on and off throughout the years). But they never make it known to me directly, it makes me second guess things. It’s like I always wonder why I never have a boyfriend if I’m told I’m attractive, I also hear about a lot of introverted/socially awkward women that are in long term relationships. I really wonder if finding the right person is the answer to all my issues, I’ve spoken to guys in the past and tend to find ways to get out of it before I determine if they’re a good fit or not. Something about guys has always felt…different. Since I was in my teens, never got the craze with being boy crazy etc.

I’ve been seeing this cute guy around at work.
He works in a different department to me but I see him on breaks, he sits with other people from his department. He is normally deeply immersed in his phone. I’ve noticed a few times that he will gaze at me and when I look at him, he will smile at me while holding eye contact. I’m always the one to look away first (because I am super shy).

A couple of weeks ago, we were walking towards each other in the corridor. He did his usual gaze and smiled at me, then I said “hiya, you alright?” As I passed by. He smiled even more and looked down. A week or so after that, I walked past him while he was eating his lunch and I looked down at him and smiled.

Since then, I’ve noticed we don’t really have those interactions anymore. When I see him, he usually looks in every other direction apart from mine, even when he walks right past me. I have seen him occasionally glance at me when he is in the distance.
We did have another occurrence when we walked towards each other. He smiled and said hiya very quietly and walked off. Today, I was stood behind him at the water fountain waiting for my turn. He turned around, said “sorry” really quickly and walked off. I think he may have left real quick but I was too shy to look at him.

Please help me because I’m starting to feel like I’m repulsive and that he is uninterested.