Search Results: when you split from a girl

So I'm a 50/50 girl because I believe that I should pay my own way just in case the first date doesn't work out. A guy asked me out and we decided to go 50/50 but he never showed up. He always said he forgot or was too busy to go on a date despite offering to take me. I didn't understand why this was because he wasn't paying for anything.

There was another guy I talked to which i wanted to go to a coffee shop date ( where we both pay for our own drinks) even though I personally hate coffee it just seemed like the cheapest option at the time. - this guy was rude and inconsiderate of me and I don't know why this was.

I thought men preferred 50/50 or super cheap dates but every time I do this the date either goes bad or the guy doesn't even seem interested in me. I constantly see men saying they appreciate a women who splits or is low maintenance/ cheap so I don't understand why I'm getting such ironic responses when I do this. Maybe I shouldn't be taking dating advice from the internet?

I am no where in the position of being in a situation where I get the joy of picking out rings. However ever since my brush with death in my dual truck accident I been reconsidering life. The things I've done and what I want. I also have been plagued with pain nightmares and mini nervous breakdown or panic attacks.

During a recent panic I pulled my car over to relax. I looked up and it happened to be in front of a mall I had bought my engagement ring. Feeling nostalgic needing to relax I went in to the store. There were many memories which washed over me. Good and bad.

I stopped at the ring styles I always wanted. During my first engagement He would have bought it for me had I asked but I didn't dare to. He even implied "that's the one you want isn't it"

I horrifyingly shook my head no in shock. A lie yes but I was very apprehensive at the idea of asking for something so costly with not contributing anything to it. It would have eaten at my conscience. We picked a set which ran significantly less.

Staring at the certain rings I realized I still want what those rings stands for... A forever and happily ever after. A partner whos my equal. I want someone who we balance each others and equally contribute to one anothers needs.

I also realized I'm not the same girl as then. I'm wiser at putting cash a side and I'm more confident. This time I can turn to a man I love and confidently say to him that's the one I want and I'll help pay for it.

My previous husband would have been offended by this. Though he was much older than me and from a different custom.

Do people considered it rude to A pick out one's own ring?

B would it be rude to offer to help pay especially because their requesting a certain ring which may run a bit steep?

As for me I've made up my mind lol that's the ring I want... I don't have the man to go with it yet but I'm hoping to find him! 🤣... And he doesn't have to worry I'll buy it if he can't afford it and then his as well!