Advice please :(?

[Anonymous]

I had a boyfriend of 4 years he treated me very badly during 3 years and I was still with him. He also did a lot of good stuff but the negative outweighs the positive. I decided to break up with him in September 2022 and 2 months later he got another girlfriend. I was so nice to him I did everything for him and was very forgiving I forgave him for moving on so quick from the relationship that lasted 4 years in which he fucked up with me. The other day we were talking normal about school and stuff college and he texted me and said guess who I spoke too. Then I’m like who then he’s like Maria ( fake name). This girl “maria” was a person who he takes shit about one of his girl friends and one of the reasons we split up before a year ago. I am over him I don’t really care who he talkedbto anymore he has a whole new girlfriend I’m not jealous but for me it felt so humiliating him talking yo someone that caused me so much hurt. How would you feel if you ex started talking to someone else that they talked shit about you to and this person hurt you so much. Isisnt it disrespectful to me like I was your best friend for 4 years bro don’t you have any consideration for my feelings? What do you think?

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry but this man hasn’t respected or been good to you for 3 years, so why would him doing yet another hurtful thing be what’s surprising and humiliating? Rather than pouring more energy into his bullshit, end that situation completely and move on. He’s not a good boyfriend, and not a good friend. I think you put much more value into your connection with him than vice versa, and that’s made clear when he dates the person he essentially told you not to worry about. You would never do that to him, and not having that mutual consideration and respect should be nail in the coffin.

[Anonymous]

I think you should distance yourself from your ex. He's obviously moved on and it does you no good to have these bad interactions with him.

[Asker]

I will he’s the one that keeps on coming back. But be honest don’t you feel like he had no consideration for my feelings. Like I’ve been the most supportive person the most kindest and forgiving and now this again. Like your talkingnto someone that caused me so much hurt. Am I over reacting?

[Asker]

At least respect the friendship we had no. Like respect me as a person it’s so humiliating what he has done in my opinion

[Opinion Owner]

Obv he doesn't care about your feelings just like in the relationship if he's bad mouthing you to others after being boyfriend/girlfriend for years.

[Pyrofox]

Simply cut him off.

[Asker]

I didn’t want to in respect of us being four years together I wanted to be here for him if he needed anything. But I already have cut him off

[Pyrofox]

If its a toxic 4 years both of y'all wasting one anothers time.