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Women are notorious for sending mixed messages and “shit testing” men. They say something is okay when it really isn’t. They want to see if the guy is self controlled and wise enough to pass the test.

However there are a few scenarios men are guilty of this as well. I can think of only two scenarios where men unfairly “shit test” women.

Shit Test #1: He pressures her to have sex early. She gives it up and he then later loses respect for her.

A lot of men judge women for being promiscuous/easy. If she initiating random sex with lots of guys that’s one thing. But if a guy pressures her to do it and she gives in (and enjoys it) then he really has no right to judge her. It was all his idea.

Yet there are some men who do this and frankly it’s a double standard bs. I actually stayed in long term relationships with all three of my past gfs despite having sex with all on them within 3 dates. One ex girlfriend said she would of done it on our first date (we did on the second) if I initiated. But I am actually glad I didn’t.

Shit Test #2: Telling her you don’t mind if she hangs out and talks (a lot) with other guys including exes. However when she does the man gets angry/jealous.

Jealousy is a tricky bastard. On one end a very controlling man is extremely insecure. He gets pissed off if another guy looks to long at his girlfriend or tries to chat with her (often the other guy doesn’t know she’s taken). It can actually be a compliment when other guys check out your girlfriend/wife JUST as long they are respectful about it. But when they cross a line it deserves an ass kicking.

On the flip side some guys seemingly don’t mind at all of their girlfriend/wife hang out with other guys and even do more with them. It’s like they are somehow demonstrating they aren’t controlled by jealousy.

But the truth is some guys “say” it’s alright when deep down they are not at all okay with it. It’s there way of “testing” their girlfriend/wife to make sure they really love them.

My girlfriend is really close with her sister, but I'd wager they haven't gotten as close as we have, if you catch my drift.

So while one is clearly more intimate, which one takes precedence? We also spend every waking moment together and have for the past 3 years, while she sees her family only occassionally. Yeah, there's a blood tie, but she admits that her family is really rude and demeaning and she doesn't like spending too much time with them.

For my situation, her sister is extremely rude and just plain mean, so I don't want to spend time with her. Girlfriend is upset that I don't want to see her sister.

But, they are still family. And while we could break up, family is more reliable, sometimes.

I have decided to minimize my time around her family as much as possible, as they are a net-negative to my life. But, I fully support her spending whatever time she wants with them. I'm just wondering how much leeway I should have to bitch about it in the event it damages our relationship. Freedom of choice, sure, but none of us get to decide freedom of outcome resulting from our actions. Does family obviously come first? Or does your romantic partner of 3 years?