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So this guy and I were talking for 2 weeks had a great date, but then the next day he asked me to have sex with him and i declined because it was too fast and i wasn't comfortable with him. He then ghosted me after 3 weeks from me asking to hang out. Then reached out after the 3 weeks wanting to hang out. I politely declined. Then 2 months later his hanging around my work. I text him, we meet up. Then he ghosted me for another 3 weeks. Hanging around my work again. I text him, then he has ghosted me again.

He has a tbi to his frontal lobe so is very impulsive and has no filter...

28F, I’m leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like a runway model & guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches have never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person?

Sorry it’s long but I could really use the help😂


my guy friend and I have been lowkey talking ever since high school. I say lowkey because it’s only ever been light conversations and “pictures” due to complications in our friend group. We both go to college together too and see each other almost every weekend (not romantically, just with our friends).

Sometimes during the day after class, we will go eat lunch together. Even when our group is eating lunch, we will typically sit next to each other at the table.
We recently matched on Tinder and I thought it was interesting but brushed it off. Typically, in a group setting, he doesn’t really acknowledge me much. He will still say hi to me and doesn’t act uncomfortable or anything. He is very loud and outgoing with our friend group and makes everybody laugh including me. He seems to be “touchy” with everyone else except me (unless if I ask for a hug).
One time I forgot my wallet and he offered to get something for me, which I thought was sweet.

We’ve lightly talked about hooking up but it never ends up happening. I told him that I’m a virgin, which I thought would scare him off, but he was nice and said if I ever wanted to, he would go easy and take it slow. I can't tell if he’s just shy when it comes to his feelings, or if he’s not interested at all. I’m fine if he’s not, because I really value our friendship. I’ve been receiving a lot of mixed signals lately😂

So my guy friend and I have been lowkey talking ever since high school. I say lowkey because it’s only ever been light conversations and “pictures” due to complications in our friend group. We both go to college together too and see each other almost every weekend (not romantically, just with our friends).

Sometimes during the day after class, we will go eat lunch together. Even when our group is eating lunch, we will typically sit next to each other at the table.
We recently matched on Tinder and I thought it was interesting but brushed it off. Typically, in a group setting, he doesn’t really acknowledge me much. He will still say hi to me and doesn’t act uncomfortable or anything. He is very loud and outgoing with our friend group and makes everybody laugh including me. He seems to be “touchy” with everyone else except me (unless if I ask for a hug).
One time I forgot my wallet and he offered to get something for me, which I thought was sweet.

We’ve lightly talked about hooking up but it never ends up happening. I told him that I’m a virgin, which I thought would scare him off, but he was nice and said if I ever wanted to, he would go easy and take it slow. I can't tell if he’s just shy when it comes to his feelings, or if he’s not interested at all. I’m fine if he’s not, because I really value our friendship. I’ve been receiving a lot of mixed signals lately😂

28F, I’m leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like a runway model & guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches have never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person?