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Girl I was seeing (we're both 25) for about six weeks broke things with me, earlier this week. She had gone from saying this just days before that she liked me a lot and that I made her feel really comfortable, and that she could say things to me she couldn't to others, to saying that she didn't think we were compatible and basically that she thought we were in different places in terms of our feelings for each other. Before that night, I didn't think I had ever found someone so compatible to me.

I told her that night I that I thought I might be falling in love with her. She told me Tuesday that was kicked off the thinking that led to her ending it. She also met some of my friends that weekend, for the first time. Even still, she told me afterwards that she likes me a lot, it just takes time to for her to get there. And when she went home the next night, she told me that I make her really comfortable with how I handle things in bed (she's completely inexperienced).

She's never been on more than two dates with someone, or made out or anything, and my therapist and others think she likely panicked. I reached out to her yesterday and we texted back and forth a little, agreed to be friendly going forward (we're on the board of a very active social/networking organization with lots of mutual friends) and continue our working relationship. I also told her she was pretty brave with how she ended things and that my first time breaking things off with someone was hard for me. Does anyone think she could change her mind?

There are a few times out of curiosity I’ve approached heavier girls and even though they were traditionally not very pretty there was something intangible about them I found attractive.

Surprisingly these girls were actually extremely bitchy when I gave them keen but innocent attention. The attention wasn’t sexual but of intense curiosity that might become sexual.

Anyway they got bizarre deluded sense of pride that they just had to play “hard to get”. Yet I would have no problem walking the second I felt a shit test happening. Admittedly attractive women are much more likely to get away with playing games with me (but I know where to draw the line). But it’s like a unattractive woman thinks that acting bitchy somehow puts her on par with the very pretty girls she is so jealous of.

I remember years ago I went to get a few drinks with a girl I didn’t find attractive at all. I’m not sure how it started by she ended up going mega bitch and saying something really nasty.

Then next day she messaged me and apologize profusely. She begged me for a second chance. I told her I felt better she apologized but I wasn’t interested in hanging out again. She sadly wished me best of luck and I did likewise.

But anyway why do these unattractive often self sabotage the few rare opportunities they do have to date a decent looking guy who gave them attention? Does the feeling of deluded pride of being “able to turn someone down because I think I am hot and have options” more satisfying then actually having a real tangible rare opportunity with someone?

I know no fat guy would turn down a woman who is a 7 or above. But why would a BBW woman turn down the same vice versa?