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I was chatting with my roommate and she was telling me about these sites or apps that she's gone on to chat with guys such as meetup tagged and plenty of fish. At first I wasn't sure what she was looking for so I listened and I laughed at some of the messages she got and I shut my eyes @ some of the pictures she received oh boy! 😳🙈 Which to those she thankfully chewed them out! 😠

and finally I asked her "why are people on these apps? what are you hoping to gain?" in actuality I wanted to ask are you looking for a hookup or a date? not that I thought my friend was looking for a hookup but more because the responses she was getting from the guys. They seemed more interested in looking for a hookup... Anyhow her response was "I don't know just looking to talk... Get comfortable enough to meet with someone... Hopefully nice"...

I responded "yeah but is it me or do most of them just want hookups?"

To which she shrugged and said "well how else do we do this how else do we meet up with people?"

Sadly I can't say. Dating or getting to know someone now a days seems to have become so complicated.

So what are these site for? What other apps or sites are there? And what are they for?

I get eHarmony and match. com that's obvious they're looking for marriages but is it okay to look on eHarmony and you're not looking for marriages or romantic or a hookup?

• 1 Where do you look if you just want casual dating without a hookup?
• 2 Where do you look if you don't want the dating and you might just want a friend?
• 3 And for the hell of it since we are on the subject where do you look if you do want just to hook up?

I am P1 he is P2

(Was a bit funny bc he was like shaking his head slowly “no” while I was saying good solution”, So I laughed)

2 Well, I made you laugh 3 times thats something 😃😃😃

(That confused me not bc I didn’t Understand it was a joke but I didn’t get the point…So I was quiet)

2 Sooo ok how about this we just continue to spend time together and see how it goes.

1 yeahhhh 😬 so I’m never comfortable with “let’s wait & see”that even it’s what _I’m_doing bc it usually means something different to other people than it does to me…. For example, I AM “seeing how things go” but I think It’s different for me bc I do not have a cut off point. I do not have a ‘if something doesn’t happen by such and such a time, I’m out’ Such as sex marriage or fancy dinners or whatever lol. I’m literally just “seeing what is there”… Sooooo if someone actually IS looking for something specific and they are on a timer ⏰ , I’d prefer they just say that rather than basically “let’s see if it happens on time “ 🤪😎

2 Alright 🤔 Soooo In all that time we hung out, what two years now? I didn’t ask you out. Right?

(was confused & I thought he meant like “I do not care much about dating you at all”)

2 😛 I don’t mean it like that. What I mean is, I’m not in a rush to “date” I didn’t ask you out and I wasn’t looking to date, I agreed bc what do you call it “I feel some kind of way about you”… I was cool on my own. I have dated a fair amount and I’m busy now it isn’t bothering me to be single 🤷🏽‍♂️ I’m happy to get to know you but we don’t need to “date” if that’s not what YOU want. 😇

(So honestly at that point I wasn’t sure then what he wanted)

1 Sooo do you mean you want to stay friends? 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 Well, I def want to stay friends!😃 why wouldn’t I…. and maybe you’ll change your mind eventually and we can date if you decide. Meanwhile we can just be like this. If you want. 🙂🙂

1. 🧐 I have question but you don’t have to answer.

2. Go for it. 👍🏼

I’m not really sure how to put this, but sone of you know I had ashes secersl questions about how you might react if someone you were seeing told you they plan to marry, you told them you do not, and they wanted to continue dating regardless. I found this odd and suspicious bc if you already know what you want and you know it’s not what the other person wants, well you either think they are not being serious or you are not being serious. That’s how I see it tho I know there’s varied opinions.

this situation confused me not just bc he said he def wants marriage but the whole way he spoke about his future plans he is not flaky and he seems kind of traditional so I don’t understand how he’s ok with a situation that doesn’t line up with his plans or values.

he wants to finish his phd and hopefully get married before his grandparents die (he’s not going to just marry anyone but he’s hoping the timing works out bc it will mean so much to them and they mean so much to him. I mean no doubt it’s super sweet it’s just…) he wants to go beck to Ukraine to get narrated have the celebration there & locate work in Europe bc he expects there will be few job opportunities in Ukraine itself and wants to be as close as possible to his family. We both have family from Ukraine but his is immediate family, mine is several generations down, so while I am Ukrainian so I’m not Ukrainian in the same way that he is.

now he’s telling me all this on basically the first time we were in a sort of date (went to the park before I went to work) we have been friendly for two years but I only asked him out a few weeks ago and bc of scheduling conflict it took us a while to get it together.

I did tell him I do not plan to marry for various reasons, he was quite in disbelief at that, also that I’m not sure what my ten year plan is. At the same time, he was very eager to see me again and as of now we will be going in a date next week. But I’m not sure it’s a good idea.