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Again, not meant to be taken seriously. But after my latest take about exes/zodiacs, I’m trying to see something here. I was probably the most physically hurt by a Capricorn and Aries. However, emotionally, I have noticed the heartbreakers tend to end up being the air signs AQUARIUS, GEMINI, LIBRA, and also CANCER and SAGITTARIUS. Anyone else experience this? If you’re not sure of the person’s zodiac sign, tell me their birth month or google it.

My experience-

-Cancers usually have the looks and personality. They could truly be the whole package if they allowed themselves to be. But they seem to fear commitment and I don't know why because they don’t seem like the cheating type. Maybe they just fear getting hurt so they hurt you first.

-Sagittarius will show you in so many ways that they want you. But the problem is they never only want you. You tend to be just one of the people they are after. And if you confront them about it, they will go to the lowest of lows and say the meanest things (or simply shun/ignore/avoid you) just to get out of looking like a player.

-Gemini will be all for you. But they let their insecurities get the best of them. So once you’re ready to give things a go, then suddenly they forgot they wanted to be more than friends.

-Libras are hard to understand. Just like Gemini they are all for you. Just like Sagittarius they show you they want you. Just like Cancer they have the looks and personality. But one day they’re just suddenly not interested for long. I think they miss flirting with others too much and just choose not to commit for the timebeing.

-Aquarius only want company from certain people at certain times. One minute they’re interested and the next they forget to show they still care. They want to commit but question when they should. It will drive you to leave them and then you both end up hurt from the lack of communication and not sharing one another’s love language. #FeelFreeToList

I’ve been looking into it and found that it’s as a way to manipulate and try to put the blame on the other?

As for context, I was in love with a guy and it was reciprocated. When we tried to be together everything got toxic and everything stopped. We went from talking everyday to nothing. Even if it went bad, I still wanted to be cordial (since we have the same friends) but he began to act like I don’t exist. I heard around that he still talks about me and I think he misses me (I don't know if that was a lie), but every time I’m around he just avoids me and I wanted to know why would a guy do that?

I talked to my friends (other than those we share) and they said when guys ignore you it’s that they are not interested in you and everything. But he was pretty much my best friend and I don’t understand why the flip? From my perception, I don’t understand because why put a lot energy into avoiding someone when you can just be indifferent?

I'm hurting right now and very upset. My suspicious were confirmed just 2 days ago when my husband left his FB messenger open. It was messages between him and my SIL (sister-in-law). He admitted to her that he always loved his ex girlfriend Olivia from his much younger years. They met as 9 year-olds playmates, then dated for a short time in their Sophomore year of HS, she broke up the next year and met someone else.

The woman is married but still has him on his FB contact list as friends. He admitted to my SIL that he still loves her more than me. He loves me but I'm not really his first option. He would've wanted to have kids with her. He also said it was true what he once told me while drunk when we were just dating. Then this was the hurting part for me, the SIL asked if he would leave me if Olivia were to get divorced now and she reciprocated his feelings and he reply was a ''Yes, unfortunately I would leave (my name) but that'll never happen. I have to accept being in Olivia's forever friendzone''.

Flashback to the time we were just boyfriend and girlfriend:

We were drinking and while making love, he called me by her name. He literally said ''Oh Olivia, I love you... yeah''. Then tried to fix it right away when I got upset immediately. He called it a stupid drunken mistake and how we would never get drunk like that ever again and even reconfirmed me a bunch of times that he got over her already. I stupidly believed him.

Is this fair? We have a 7 year-old son and he's still obsessing over her? He never got over her and just got with me as second best.