I was at my guy bestfriend’s place. He slept next to me, I was feeling super cold so he cuddled me the whole night very tightly what does this mean?

[Anonymous]

So we have been best friends for over 6 years. He knows my likes, dislikes, my favourites, even my allergies and every other small details about me. I was staying the night at his place with another guy friend as well. We got drunk and watched movies had good food. Eventually we got tired and wanted to sleep.
the 3rd friend slept on an extra mattress on the floor and I was laying on the bed. My best friend laid next to me very close. After some time I was feeling very cold, my hands and legs were cold and I was shivering. My boy best friend asked me to hug him tightly and cuddle him. He held me tightly in his arms and was rubbing and caressing my back. He held me tight from my waist. He was rubbing his feet with mine to warm me up. My head was buried in his chest. He then asked me to hold him very tightly. I’m now confused. Does he have a thing for me? Because not all guy friends or even best friends would ask you to cuddle and take care of you. He also gets super mad and angry when I get busy or don’t give him enough time. He basically wants me to be present in his life and I love to. I’m always gonna be by his side. He has always been my priority. He also makes a face when I tell him that I’m seeing someone, he doesn’t say it but his face gives away what he’s thinking. A lot of my friends and family tell me that he has a crush on me. But I don’t know. Please help me

Updates

4 mo

So guys here’s an update, I built up some courage to speak with him and I did today evening face to face! At first we sat started talking, Then I slowly sneaked in this question “what are your thoughts about the night we cuddled?” he was stunned. He started blushing!!! He was like it was fun, we all enjoyed. He said and I quote “I wanted to take care of you cause you’re like a little baby and I loved it” later on he asked if I enjoyed it or not and I said yes. And we kissed 15 mins later

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn girl, from what you're describing it definitely sounds like your boy has feels for you! No normal guy "friend" would cuddle with you like that all night just cause you were cold. Rubbing your back and feet too? That's way more than friend stuff. Plus the way he gets jealous when you're with other guys or busy - that's a dead giveaway. I've been friends with dudes for years and none of them act like that unless they trying to shoot their shot, ya know?

It's pretty obvious he likes you as more than a friend, even if he won't straight up say it. But I get why it's confusing since you've been besties for so long. My advice would be to have a real conversation with him. Let him know all the attention is sending mixed signals and you wanna understand where he's really at, just as friends or something more. Get clarity on how he truly feels deep down. Otherwise this will just keep bugging you both. Better to get it all out in the open, feel me? Then you can decide how to move forward whether just as homies or trying something romantic. But girl, I'd bet money he wants you for sure!

[Asker]

You’re right!! I should talk to him. And yeah no other guy friends dare to even touch their female friends unless they have a romantic interest. Let’s see where this conversation goes with him🤞🏻

[Oliverlogan263]

For sure, a talk is definitely needed here to clear the air! I'd wait for a chill one-on-one moment with just you guys, then casually be like "hey so about that night we cuddled... is there something more going on there?"

Give him an opening to open up without putting him on the spot too much. And really listen without judgment. If he does admit to having feelings, don't give him a direct answer right away. Tell him you need time to think about how you feel.

The important thing is keeping the communication honest and the friendship strong no matter what. Even if you just want to stay friends, reassure him that won't change and he didn't mess things up. These kinds of talks can be nervous, but you've known each other forever so it should be okay.

Just go with your gut and do what feels right. This could turn into an even more amazing connection, or you might decide to just keep it as is - either way is cool as long as you're both happy. Keep me posted! I'm rooting for you guys.

[Asker]

I’m gonna meet him soon and talk to him about this freely. Let’s hope for the best!!! Thank you for your kind wishes!!

[Oliverlogan263]

That's awesome, I hope it goes well for you! Talking things out honestly is the best way to clear the air. Don't be nervous, just be real with how you're feeling and listen openly to what he has to say too. Communication is key with friends. No matter what, remember that you guys have been close for so long - I'm sure your friendship can withstand anything as long as you both stay true to each other. Try not to overthink it too much beforehand. Just go with your heart and it'll all work out like it's meant to. You got this sis! Let me know how it goes, I'm rooting for you guys. Stay strong!

[KrakenAttackin]

@Oliverlogan263. Maybe he wants her but he had her dead in his sights, in bed, and didn't push to make the kill. Pathetic.

[HawkPerception]

Pretty obvious dude has a thing for you. But pretty pathetic he doesn't just it either. I think you need to communicate openly with him. Ask him bluntly if he has feelings for you and decide whether you want to reciprocate or not.

[Asker]

You’re right! I’ll talk to him soon

[HawkPerception]

Wish you luck 😊

[DreamCrescent]

girly, from what I’m reading, you’re kinda crushing on him hard

you have feelings for him but for whatever reason, you’re trying to make it about him wanting you. and it’s not unlikely he does

but it’s also okay to act on your own feelings, too. you like him, tell him. chances are he likes you back. you have a good relationship with him. there’s no need to wait around confused until he touches you and you try to decipher that

[Asker]

Yeah I do like him, we have a great bond and nobody understands me better than him. I’m gonna talk to him about this soon

[DreamCrescent]

👏👏👏
wish you the best, chula

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It sounds like he is crushing on you, but hasn't told you how he felt yet. If you feel the same way about him, I'd say go for it! (and good luck). To me it sounds like you guys have a precious connection and bond together. 💞

[Asker]

I haven’t had the courage to talk to him about this. But if he’s crushing on me.. I will go crazy!! Yes we do have a great connection, we can literally understand each other’s thoughts just by an eye contact. Im gonna talk to him soon!!! Thank youuu

[DextroShade]

Men are not your friends!

The only reason this guy does these things or even associates with you at all is because he hopes and believes one day you will notice how good he is to you and elevate him out of the friend-zone. If he ever realized that you were never going to do this he would disappear from your life instantly. Maybe you will after you hit the wall and have Chad's kid in tow but that is a shit deal for him.

[Asker]

Now that’s a very different perspective! He is definitely very good to me. I do like him. But I don’t think he would disappear from my life if I reject him

[DextroShade]

Maybe, maybe not but i know he wouldnit be cuddlingwith you if you were a dude. If he found another girl you would be seeing a lot less of him if at all. I hope he wakes up and realizes that being in the friend-zone is an L for him and moves on to girls who actually like him.

[Horse-girl]

It definitely sounds like he likes you! If you like him back then reciprocate and if you feel able bring it up in conversation to see what he says. Good luck 😊

[Asker]

I hope he has the same feelings as me! Fingers crossed 🤞🏻 thanks a lot

[Horse-girl]

You're very welcome 😊

[Horse-girl]

Ahw congratulations, I'm so happy for you!

[AutumnSerenity]

I’d say it’s pretty obvious that he was hoping you’d reciprocate or give consent to be intimate with you. He didn’t take it any further because he was afraid to scare you away.

[Asker]

Maybe. I would back off if he’s only interested in physical stuff.

[Luméa]

Based on what you said, I think he has feelings for you, no male bestie would normally want these things, or would not grimace when you meet someone, he has feelings for you, it is very obvious, your circle is right, this boy loves u!!

[Asker]

Oh my god! If he does. I will be on top of the world.

[Luméa]

i am sure he loves lol

[Fireguy17]

You were warmer.
Nothing wrong with shared body heat.
Sounds like nothing else happened so it pretty much meant that he took pity on you and didn't want you to be cold.

[Asker]

Maybe.

[exitseven]

He might or maybe he likes to be close to you. I had a female friend and we used to hold hands at the movies. She knew I had a girlfriend but still it was nice.

[Asker]

So is it like really very normal for friends to cuddle?

[Tamera952]

Don’t know, why don’t ya just ask him? …Or better yet, …. what do YOU think it means?

[Asker]

I’m scared. But I think it means he likes me. He has other female friends he has never acted with them like he does with me. So I feel special and maybe he likes me

[EmmaMary]

Just how the fuck do you guys think these stories up?

[Asker]

Not stories over here dude. Just a genuine question

[Nikki1989]

I cuddle with all my friends so it would mean nothing to me, but I don't know your friend.

[Twalli]

He's definitely into you. He might not want to make a move because he doesn't think you'd be interested.

[Asker]

Then how can I indirectly let him know that I’m interested?

[Twalli]

Why don't do it directly?

[HouseMoat]

Why does it matter, if he's "just your friend", LMAO

[Asker]

I do like him.

[HouseMoat]

There it isssss

[Anonymous]

you literally did what a lot of men accuse women of doing. You friend zoned a perfectly good man. Shame on you.

[Nice222]

Sounds to me he was just being really nice and trying to help you.

[Asker]

I guess. I’ll talk to him. Let’s see what happens

[Nice222]

Wow I read the update and I am happy that you talked to him.

[pickles77]

I’m Sure he likes you

[Asker]

I hope so too!

[pickles77]

Try to flirt with him a little bit. It’s less nerve racking then asking him and if he reciprocates it will be an open door to continue flirting and then it will be a lot easier to have that conversation

[Anonymous]

What does it mean on your end?

[Asker]

I like him. He’s the closest to me. But I don't know if he likes me back?

[Opinion Owner]

Then you should definitely have that conversation. I’m sure you’re reluctant because you don’t want to mess up the friendship but already you are stepping outside of platonic boundaries when you’re cuddling and all that, I know I wouldn’t cuddle my male friends lol. I think knowing where he stands would be better than continuing with this silently anyway because what you don’t want is to start perceiving things as one way while in his head it’s another.

[Staximus]

Just marry him already

[Asker]

Hahah I’m too young! But if get together then for sure.

[austinbooth]

I bet he has a crush on you

[KrakenAttackin]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[kingmaker21]

Overthinking spoil good friendship

[Rc2020]

He likes you