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Would you pay for your kid (s) college tuition? What's your limit?

I told my kids we would pay for an in state college with reasonable tuition. The limit is about 15k per kid per year for their associates, since they will both be going around the same time. They can live at home or pay their own rent if they live elsewhere. If they want a more expensive college option, they have to pay the difference. If they fail a class they have to pay for it. My husband also plans to use his GI bill on them even though it won't do much.

Part of the reasoning is because our income will likely disqualify them from most financial aid. Otherwise, college here would be nearly free.

Which matters more to you? The destination or the journey you take to get there.

This saying may mean different things to different people.

It can mean that stopping to smell the roses and and enjoy your way to your goals is important.

It can also mean that the little things you do on your journey add up to get you to your destination.

On the other hand, it can also mean that all of life is a journey that never ends. There's only the illusion of there being a destination to reach.

What does it mean to you, and how do you feel about this saying?

I'm inspired by the philosophical alternatives it inspires for different perspectives on what life really means, what we are all doing here, and how we go about it. When I first heard it, what I do in each moment became more important than rushing towards the next goal. No more missing out on all of the little things.

I packed the kids in my car and took a spontaneous trip to join a Rainbow Family Gathering and just breathe, live, relax, and enjoy the here and now.

I no longer had end goals for working out, just learning to enjoy the act of working out and viewing fitness as a side effect of that rather than a goal. Fitness suddenly became a fun habit rather than a chore.

I focused on just enjoying the simplest natural foods rather than dieting. Having a massive bowl of fresh fruits and veggies for breakfast and lunch without any obsession. Just enjoying the taste and look of something healthy for me. Again, my health and fitness became side effects rather than stress ridden goals.

On road trips it became much more common to pause many times along the way. On vacations, winging it on a daily basis became normal.

Big career goals and pushing to work harder and harder became things that either happen or don't based on our own personal enjoyment with our work.