Search Results: How can I forget her

My friend can't ever forgive her parents ever getting disowned for getting pregnant at 18. She's now 32, in a stable marriage, they both own a business and her two kids are both ages 14 and 9.

Her parents all of the sudden are all remorseful and want her back. However, this was her reply back to them ''My biological parents died long ago. Goodbye''. She then proceeded to blocking them.

She can't ever forgive that they didn't give a rats about her life (her 2nd pregnancy nearly cost her life; it got complicated), health, her first child's birth, her wedding, her b-days, etc. She also suspects they're just contacting her only after finding out she's having a good life and wouldn't be reaching out if she was poor and struggling? Her then boyfriend (now husband) took full responsibility and she received support from his parents. They were like a real parents to her. She also imagines that even if she forgives them and were to have them back in her life, she would never forget what they're capable of and that their love was never unconditional, that they would leave her during bad times again.

Would you forgive and give a 2nd chance if you got disowned or not? Personally, I agree with my friend. I would never be able to forgive that.

I'm impressed with my parents' endurance, given their past infidelity decades ago. Obviously I was too young to even form sentences at the time. Actually I wasn't even born when mom cheated first and they weren't married yet. Yup they still got married later on.

Mom got caught (on his couch with his former friend... the journal I read had the graphic details of it, more than what I'm even posting) and dad cheated back years later but at least he felt terrible and confessed himself shortly. I know they worked it out long ago. Though if the cheater got caught, can trust really be regained in that case? If they confess at least there is a small chance since the person came clean but if they got caught, that has to be nearly impossible.

Apart from the hard work they did, I would like to know how is the relationship like if they stay together. Can a human really be capable of forgiving and forgetting that and regain trust if they wanted to? Personally I don't think I can work that, no matter how much counseling sessions, no way I would overcome that.