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Hello friends, so There is this girl who had blocked me, things didn't quite work out, it was my own doing, i haven't get to talk to her for almost 6 months now since the day she blocked me, we were super close, emotionally attached, so one day ( this month) me and a good friend of mine were having some lunch at a small fast food restaurant, which happens to be in her area, near her place, me and my were sitting outside, then suddenly from a distance i saw her, she was coming from her evening jogging routine, i was kinda happy and at the same time, i thought to myself if i talk to her maybe i won't be welcome the same, since she had blocked me and told me to stay away, so i just look the opposite side, i think she saw me, she went inside the same restaurant me and my friend were in, i can see in her face she was kinda nervour or uncomfortable, she was rubbing her forehead the moment she enters the restaurant, she was buying something perhaps, a lot of things is going inside my head now, i thought to myself should i say hi or not , what is she doesn't want to talk to me, i might embarrassed myself or me since there are a lot of people around, so i keep looking the opposite direction, she standing inside the restaurant talking with the cook, and then she step outside and went back home, i;ve always care for her, she meant a lot to me, i miss her, but i'm afraid that i won't be welcome anymore, so my question is do you think she went inside the restaurant on purpose because she saw me and thinking that i might initiate contact, because you know what if you saw someone you had blocked, would'nt you just turn the other way and avoid conversation and awkwardness? like i don't know what is going on in her mind, before she blocked me she had lashed out at me calling me crazy and a psychopath which really hurts, maybe she had forgotten about me, do you think she went inside the shop on purpose? ladies what are your insights?
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My insights will always be to respect the person’s decision. Normally I would encourage you, but knowing that she not only blocked you but asked you stay away is where the line gets drawn. Seeing her for the first time in months, and with how you still feel about her, I understand that it threw you off but I don’t think it was your sign to reach out. Sorry.
If she did notice you, and seemed uncomfortable as a result, it’s probably because she didn’t expect to run into you and hoping you didn’t approach. At least that’s how I’d feel as a woman who lashed out, called the man psychopathic and told him not to reach out.
You know the thing, like she already saw me from a distance, so why not just avoid me you know, like instead of walking inside that restaurant, if it was me i would have keep moving forward to avoid any uncomfort and awkwardness. This is the same girl who ghost me once me , told to me back off, called me psychopathic and then unblocked me to see if i had moved on, then after a while block men again, and then when i tried to mend things, she lash out and refer to me as a psychotic once more. So seeing her that day i thought you know, but maybe i had done the best for me by not saying anything.
If we look at it from this perspective , like if she did'nt want me to approach her or to avoid any talking, she had the chance to not enter that restaurant, i mean like i mentioned me and my friend were sitting outside, it was an open field restaurant, she had notice me from a distant, so knowing me like before i would have approach her, but this time i kept my composure to avoid any embarrassment, that's just how i view it or i could be wrong
If she knows the staff she probably stops in there during, after or before her jogs, you even know she does her jogs daily or regularly. Having that in mind, why would she abandon any part of her routine on your behalf? This is assuming she even saw you in the place, which we cannot confirm she did, you assume it because you were outside and you yourself got so focused on her presence. Doesn’t meant you were noticed, and that’s just being fair. Also, you may not understand this or relate, but just because she doesn’t want you in her life does not mean she’s still harboring a grudge. You have a lot of guilt, regret and longing on your shoulders, while she doesn’t have any of that, so being in your presence won’t have the same effect as vice versa. I would more imagine you being the one to avoid walking into a restaurant she was in or being seen since you are at fault in this.
I definitely would agree you did the right thing by staying away. If the lines of communication were reopened it would need to be on her behalf. At least in my opinion.
This has happen twice, she blocked me once, and i didn't even notice that she had unblocked me, i was just wishing her on her birthday thinking that my text would go through and to my surprise it did, she started initiate contact , and now maybe she had moved on i bear the pain on my shoulder
You live in the past a lot. Remember the past is a place of reference not residence. No matter what led up to cutting ties, ultimately that was her final choice and you don’t do yourself any favors by deciding whether or not to disregard what she lastly asked for. I’m sorry this is hard for you but sometimes people are meant to be lessons. Despite everything I’m sure there is some important knowledge you learned about yourself when it comes to women, and now you know what to do should this ever happen again with someone else. Try to move on, if she reaches out then you’ll know she wants to be friends again but not now.
Trust me I know it’s hard and sucks a lot since she was a close friend, more recently I actually cut ties (on bad terms) with my best friend of 17 years. Now we are like strangers when we run into each other, which is so crazy to me considering we were like sisters but it is what it is man.
Sorry hun but if she has actively asked you to stay away then her looking uncomfortable could just be because she did notice you and is actually uncomfortable.
Maybe you're right, you see the thing is, there were two phases of all of this, the first time she told me to stay away, she blocked me, i did tried asking her what was wrong, but without any answers so i stayed away, after a few weeks, she reach out back to me, saying that she had been missing me, we reconnect again, she asked me if i had moved on, i said yes, then i think that bothers her so i was blocked again, but deep down you know even if was really hurt i do love her, and the thing that had been really bothering me, is she thinks i'm mental or a psycho which i have never understood, like i have never yell, never stalk, never abuse, never once did i try to take advantage of her, she walk by right infront of me, and went inside that restaurant, she did notice me, i thought of saying Hi, how are you, since it has been a long time you know, a person you were so close, so connected once with , is now a stranger.
Coincidence. If it bothers you that much try to say your peace but if she's not having it, move on
I have, countless of times, but it seems like she literally thinks i am psychotic for whatever reason.
Like Elsa said, let it go