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Why does he get a kick when I get anxious for his safety?

I decided to ghost a guy friend because he became too much for me. I find that he is so self-destructive he can bring me down with him if I get too close.

For context, I got really mad at him because he got into an accident which caused him to break some bones and I only learned it when he messaged me that he traveled to God knows where. I was extremely in high anxiety when he delivered the news and I was asking where he was, was he with someone. Well, he never told me where he was. He only explained he did drive because he wants to learn how to. I told him he should have known he is not good at it and why do it.

Previous to this, we have been emotionally dependent to each other for 3 months where he would always act as like my doctor when im sick and he always takes care of me. But, i can never forget the times when he lied to me, told me that he was living with a room mate who was abusive when in fact it was his partner. I only knew about it through a mutual friend of ours. He is not transparent at all with me and I'm suppose to be close to him and all. Whenever we talk in the past, he always makes sure to go out of his house because he said someone might hear.

I clearly remembered a time in the past when he also said he feared for his life with an abusive ex and also dragged me in the situation by texting me and asking me for help. By the way, he still stayed with the ex for sometime and i think they are still together and could be the reason why he broke his bone.

It feels like he gets a kick when he puts me in a high anxiety mode for his safety so dropping him is the best option at this point.

I told him i dont know what to say when he delivered the news. I got tired because it did not feel like it was a friendship anymore. I felt like i was a mistress of some sort.

Why does he get a kick when I get anxious for his safety?
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