Girls, Am I doing The Right Thing?

[Anonymous]

Recently in about 2 months ago me and a friend started flirting in a group chat we're in together and I decided to take in a step further and meet in person. I known her about 5 months. I didn't want to put too much pressure on myself and her just a causal outing. everyone else knew that i liked her and i wasn't ashamed to admit it. Admittedly i was nervous as hell about meeting due to me overthinking the whole thing but I decided to just go for it. I flew out and met her in person and we clicked instantly (Like i said i didn't want to rush things we expressed interest in each other before hand) we hung out for a day at a theme park and we talked about our lives and our past relationships I forgot to mention she's on the spectrum as well and she said she doesn't like affection that much but blushed every time i hugged her (I didn't take it too far because I didn't want to make her uncomfortable). She admitted that she's ready for romance in her life due to her past relationships and i accepted it. We eventually went and got dinner and talked some more about ourselves I felt like we got closer, we even told each other our real names. we ended the night with some sight seeing and she drove me back to my hotel. I could see that she wanted to stay but i felt like it was selfish since she had other responsibilities the next day. I kissed her on the cheek and we said goodnight to each other before I exited the car. unfortunately that was the only time I saw her in person due to her getting sick and mother nature came at the same time. I was bummed honestly but was more concerned about her. I did my best to enjoy myself when i was in her area but i was worried about her I checked up on her here and there. I eventually flew back home and wanted to give her space due to her being busy with work and other things. I called her a couple days after I got home just to see how she was and she said she was okay but had been dealing with a lot.

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I ended up typing this fast before work and not realizing there's errors lol. She expressed that she's not ready for a romance due to her being hurt in the past a couple times so she's focusing on herself for now. But when we hung out there was something there it just wasn't romantic,

[SueShe]

Yes, you did the right thing by not moving on her right away. You seem to be a decent person that respects others and does not misuse them.

However, traveling so far to meet a girl that you basically know not much of of is a bit adventurous. Even after 5 months of communicating, people will not tell you everything about themselves, mainly those topics that are not meant to be revealed.

Holding hands and a peck on the cheek is my definition of a perfect first date and nothing more till you really get to know that person on a face-to-face basis for much longer.

However, when you said that you "did your best to enjoy yourself", that does not sound very positive to me. It indicates that you did not really have a good time with her.

[Asker]

I meant to say I did enjoy my time with her while i was there. Unfortunately she gotten sick for the couple days I was there

[DishLady]

So in what respect are you asking about doing the right thing? You mean keeping in touch with her? Sure, but she seems to be going through some stuff, that's all.