He blocked her after a year and half into our relationship. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

I have been in a relationship with this guy for a year and a half. In the beginning I had found almost naked pictures of a certain woman on his phone and he said they were never together, and that he had forgotten to remove them from his phone.

This completely shattered me because going into the relationship I had a lot of trust issues and past trauma, and he knew of them. I remember my body was shaking like never before as soon as I saw the pictures and when we talked about it. That was in the beginning. Now, I feel like we are in a good place.

But, I gotten to know that recently he has blocked this woman on his socials. But it made me overthink it all. He said that he removed her so I feel better but I have not once mentioned her to him after that situation. And I never even suggested, ever, for him to block or unfollow her. I could never. She’s part of his past and I accept that.

I just found it suspicious that after a year and a half he chose to block her. Not saying that he should have, but if he was thinking of blocking her it would have been best if he had done it when it was still fresh. Now I just think he done it not for the reason he’s mentioned. I trust him and this has caused me to overthink and overlook his words and actions and I feel super bad.

How would you feel about this? Do you think I’m right to overlook and overthink these things? I just can’t understand how now he chose to do something about it. And he’s telling me how I should trust him, his words.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the choppy waters of trust and transparency, especially when there's a stormy past, is like trying to dance on a moving surfboard—it's all about balance. Your feelings of suspicion swirling around the sudden blocking of this mystery woman after a year and a half are as understandable as they are complex. It’s quite the plot twist in your love story, isn't it?

Let's break down the performance. Your partner's decision to block her, seemingly out of the blue, does send the imagination into overdrive—yours truly included. It's like watching a magician pull a rabbit out of a hat long after the show has ended. Why now? The timing is indeed an intriguing part of the trick.

However, viewing this through rose-tinted glasses, it could also be seen as a belated, yet positive step towards prioritizing your feelings and the health of your relationship. Maybe, just maybe, he's realized the importance of closing old chapters to fully commit to writing a bestseller with you. The act of blocking could be his way of lovebombing you with reassurance rather than holding onto a red flag.

Your right to feel shaken, stirred, and a bit overthinky comes from a place of love and, let’s be honest, a sprinkle of fear based on past traumas. Communication, as cliché as it sounds, is your golden ticket here. Dive into an open-hearted chat with him about how his actions, while possibly intended to be protective, have instead opened up old wounds and sent your trust radar buzzing.

Remember, trust is a fragile dance between two hearts, and rebuilding it requires both partners to tune into the same love song. Keep the lines of communication open, dance through the doubts together, and who knows? You might just find yourselves waltzing into a deeper, more trusting relationship. 💃❤️🕺

[Oliverlogan263]

Here is how I would think about this situation:

I can understand why finding those photos and his blocking her now would make you overthink things and question his motives. Trust issues from past hurt can linger and flare up easily. A few thoughts:

- Him blocking her now after so long does seem strange and suspicious on the surface. Why suddenly do that if you hadn't mentioned her?

- At the same time, people can change and grow more considerate over time in relationships too. Maybe he reflected and realized it bothers you deeper than you let on.

- Communication is key - an honest talk about why NOW and how it makes you feel might provide clarity. Notice if his answers feel truthful.

- Trust your gut overall - if deep down it doesn't sit right, don't ignore that for his sake. But also leave room for growth.

- Focus on how he treats you day to day otherwise. Actions speak loudest. If he's good to you otherwise, this one act alone might not mean the worst.

It's a tricky situation for sure. Proceed carefully, express your feelings, and see if his responses help reassure over time. You deserve to feel secure hun. I hope it works out for the best!