Is my ex-GF sending a message or is she really over me?

[Anonymous]

I dated my ex-GF for a year and half. We lived together for a year of that. Our relationship and love was genuine, and we did a lot of stuff together. Two days away from moving into a new house together, we got into a big fight and abruptly broke up. Now it’s been almost 3 weeks of no-contact. She had me blocked on everything for about a week and a half and then unblocked me on everything. Then she created a fake Instagram account and watches all of my stories (I confirmed the account was her). She watches them fairly soon after I post them so she’s either looking at my profile a lot or she has my post notifications on. I still have her on Pinterest and she’s been saving loads of breakup and “moving on posts”. The pictures of us together are still on her Facebook and she’s still friends with my friends & family but today she changed her profile picture to a selfie saying “Throwback to when I was feeling for myself”. I don’t know if all of these things are genuinely her moving on and being over me or if she’s just coping and making it appear that way. If she’s over me, why would she stalk my instagram?

[PrettyPriya]

I think this is her way of dealing with things. I don't necessarily think she is over you. I also wouldn't take it to mean that she wants to get back together either. People deal with breakups different ways. This is just hers.

The best thing you can do right now is to give her some space to deal with things on her own terms. There is a much better chance she will realize that she didn't want to break up if you let her sit and think of things.

That isn't guaranteed though. She may be completely over you even if she is stalking your social media. She may just find peace of mind that you aren't moving on or whatever the case is.

Some people find company in misery and that might just be what she is doing. It may be making her feel better that you aren't out there having fun or meeting people or whatever. I have no clue what your social media says so just a guess.

[Guy13]

She’s interested only in what you are doing and clouding your mind…. games in my opinion

[WhitneySnow]

How are you so sure it’s her?

[Asker]

Used “Forgot Password” with the username is saw the last 2 digits of the phone number and the first and last letters of the email. Plus the account name is a pseudonym that she used in college, she only ever told me about it once and probably thinks that I forgot.

[WhitneySnow]

Makes sense. She’s probably conflicted. Keeping tabs on you at the same time as she’s preparing to move on. What did you guys fight about?

[WhitneySnow]

If you want her back talk to her. She unblocked you so you can do this.

[Iron_Man]

Maybe she’s not

[In_Trance]

She's over you