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1 🤔 while you were single, were you still having sex?

2 OK sooo I do have friends with which there is a mutual attraction but where neither of us see a relationship working out and sometimes we “spend time together.”

1 So would you let me know if you were still “spending time together” if I decided I was ready to date (in future)

2 wouldn’t be “spending time together”

with them if You told me you wanted to date me.🙂

🤨 Well, what if I (in future) decided to date but I am not “ready to spend time together” ?

(SEX y’all we mean sex. In case anyone didn’t catch it. “Spending time together” was the euphemism P 1 originally used for banging his friends, & I was repeating for consistency)

2 If I have a reason to wait, I can wait. But we don’t really have to worry about that at this point.

1 🤨🧐😐 Wait so then why did you go through all that stuff in the first place about how you hope you can marry while your grandparents are still here. You seem fairly casual so I don’t see why you felt the need to mention it. I wouldn’t have even been concerned about any of this 🤦🏻‍♀️

2 Well honestly they are relatively young so they have time. And while I really mean it I also do not believe in forcing things… So I am hopeful but careful.

1 Ok

2 Ok

2 … So… what now 😐

1 I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️ 👀

(Quiet for a long time)

2 Are you ready to go home? I will walk you. You are welcome to stay but it’s a bit late. I know you get up early af)

(So he walks me 🏡 I was quiet during)

2 OK so no kiss but Can I hug you😁?

1 hmm OK. maybe. ok NO. OK. 🤔

2 Are you sure? 👀

1 I think so? I don't know. nvm. Well, Uhh — maybe next time. Sorry not feeling it atm. 🤦🏻‍♀️

2 It’s OK. 😌

(He buttoned my top coat buttons which was a bit weird 👀 but I guess it’s something to do I don't know)

2 You will be at your tree 🌲 tomorrow?

1 Yeah… 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 See you on my way to work. You can tell me If you want to hang out / when you want to, yeah?

So we said good night. 🌚

1 No. I just find “liking” anyone in any kind of a way other than friendship to be

Extremely stressful. I’m not good at it. it’s probably a terrible idea for us to do anything bc we did actually get along before. ALSO I’m not being coy. 🤨 I know often if someone says something negative it’s taken as coy and I’m being serious I honestly dk if this is a good idea. I’m also serious when I say I move SLOW and I don’t mean sex I just mean anything as far as getting to know each other….

☝🏼 …But that does bring me to my other concern before you interrupted me…

All I know about sex is I’m not ready for it and as far as WHEN I will be or if I will EVER be I have NO idea…

…So if that’s the ride you’re looking for you should exchange your ticket 🎫 and hop on another train 🚂—I mean that with all due respect.

I know sex is a big deal to most people and I don’t judge I just really dk if it’s gonna matter to me.

(So he def looked more surprised here -& maybe concerned not sure-than he did when I said “it takes me a long time to talk” & he kind of paused…then asked)

2 Sooo is that like you HATE it orrrr you just never found out? 👀

1 🤔 Fair question I suppose but it doesn’t really impact the fact I’m not in any rush. Anyhow the latter.

(He looked a bit more relaxed which honestly bothered me but on the other hand, I am the one who brought it up so I can’t fault him for reacting and we are not in a Disney cartoon so I can’t expect him to not care about sex)

(Getting over my discomfort bc it was all fair his reaction, but I guess I did not know what to say)

1 I do know I do not want to date someone who’s is having sex with other people 🤢

(He looked kind of feeling accused)

1. Oh lol no ! I don’t necessarily think that’s what you’re saying. I’m only raising it bc I USED to think it was a GOOD solution a perfect one. Like I can date whomever and never have to worry about sex! And now I don’t think it’s such a good idea.👀

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I am p1 he is p2

2 What is wrong? 😐

1 I guess I feel weird bc I took something that was honest and worried about the implications, even tho I AM usually the one who hates it when People read into stuff and I like it when people are honest so I was bothered by my reaction.

2 I forgive you 

(So I laughed but then I was still concerned he’d think I thought it was significant for some other reason so I re explained I was just caught off guard.)

2 I understand. We can start Over & just be clear.

(So then I was silent)

2 Soooo what are you thinking?

1 I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 You don’t know what you are thinking?

1 I don't know what to say 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 what do you want to say

1 I don't know 😂

2 Where does this leave us?🙂

1 I don't know

2 Can you say something other than “idk” —even if you need a few minutes 😆

(So I thought. Which was awkward bc it’s like he’s waiting so I turned around not facing him and thought)

( after I thought)

1 So… I like you, somewhat. 🧐

2 Thank you 😜 uhh sorry you are supposed to be talking 🤫

(So I continued…)

🤔 So I like you in some kind of way, and I _think_ I’d like to get to know you better, but I’m not ready to “date” and I take a LOOOONG time to adjust. It’s been an issue in the past. It isn’t personal it’s just how I am. If I do not want to hang out all it’s bc of how much time I need to decompress it’s not necessarily bc I do not like someone.

2 Can I ask a question?

1 OK but I’m not finished ☝🏼

2 Noted 🤓 Do I stresses you out?

1 No. that’s why I said “it’s not personal”

2 Oh yeah no I know, I know I heard you.

But I’m wondering other than that. Do I _personally_ stress you out.. bc i was kind of shocked at how quiet you were the last time we spent time together, compared to when we used to talk at the library.

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