What am I doing wrong?

[Anonymous]

I’m 21 female and lately I’ve been feeling so lonely. I know I’m young but I’ve only ever had one boyfriend and usually guys don’t approach me. My last relationship ended bad and I have trust issues so I kinda push people away from me. Whenever I do like a guy and they like me I try it out but I always come across the same thing. They just want to hook up with me. They’ll tell me they’re looking for the same thing and then boom when we’re on a date afterwards they’ll try to make it more. I don’t think I choose bad guys because it’s not one specific group of guys I’ve talked to. I talk to all kinds of guys nice one, sporty ones, more quiet guys. I don’t know why they want me that way when I literally don’t do anything seductive, I’ve gotten told I’m a pretty girl but still like it’s hard to date lol. I’ve only hooked up with one person ever which was my ex boyfriend and that was over a year ago. I’m not the type to just hookup with anyone. I like to get to know them first and then if things go good and we become official then I’d be open to hooking up. My friend told me it’s cause guys aren’t going to wait up for me to be ready. That guys are guys and if I don’t give them none they will get it elsewhere. To me that’s kinda sad cause then it’s like I’m only wanted for one thing and no one wants to get to know me, I’m more than just a pretty face. So I don’t know if maybe I do need to loosen up and just sleep with them or I don’t know. I don’t know why it’s hard for me to find guys lol.

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But then I get confused cause I also know guys don’t want a girl who’s been with a bunch of other guys. Then they want a girl who’s going to be able to please them earlier on. I’m just so confused with the whole dating thing.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure what the cultural norm is where you live, but usually people have sex after the first few dates and it has nothing to do with the hookup scene. I'm the type of person who only sleeps with someone that I have romantic interest in, but even I consider waiting for a serious relationship to be too conservative

[chicosuave]

You're too young to be depressed. Plus you don't want to settle either. You have a long time ahead of you. Also your a girl. Your advantage is better then most men. You get hundreds of msgs from guys trying to talk to you so you're fine

[Asker]

So you don’t think I’m doing anything wrong with having guys wait until we date for us to get together?

[chicosuave]

No cuz those are the ones who would stick and not just see you as an object.

[Asker]

Thank you honestly I needed this advice (: because having people tell me I shouldn’t be that way was kinda making me feel like there was something wrong with me lol I appreciate you!

[chicosuave]

I have a female friend who is going through the same thing but she doesn't understand it.

[DaySpring]

I'd wait for you. I don't think I'm the average guy but I'm proof enough that it's possible for you to find one that will wait.