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So I (26 F) have this friend, let’s call her Dana (27F), who’s overall cool to hang with, however she tends to body shame every moment she gets. She’s overweight and super tall ( about 6’2) while I’m short (5’0) and in shape due to me actively competing in sports. In particularly, she comments about my chest size, often calling me flat, (I don’t think I am, I’m a 34 C) and saying that I’m super skinny (again I don’t think so because I lift weights). I told her several times her comments bother me and she would stop for a while but it would kick back up. That brings us to this past weekend. We were all hanging out at a party and we were having fun. Her husband was there and he’s no one really likes him. He mentioned to me how good I looked and considered messing around with me. I walked away annoyed because not only is he gross, but I don’t mess around with my friend’s SO. Later on that night we were all playing drunk taboo and the word on the card was surf board. My team didn’t get the word and as we were laughing at our competitiveness, Dana took the opportunity to say “you should’ve mentioned (my) chest, since she’s flat as board.” I got pissed off with her trying to embarrass me and I responded “instead of constantly body shaming me, take your fat ass to the gym and maybe you want to get to my size, since your man talks about how good I look and is dtf.” She looked shocked, started crying and left the party. The friend group is divided. Half of them laughed and says Dana deserved it because she talks a lot of shit while others say I shouldn’t have mentioned the comment about her man. So AITA?

I 23F have been with 32M since November 2022. His last relationship was with someone one year older than me which should have been first my red flag.

I have introduced boyfriend to a handful of friends. He becomes so drunk and high (unbeknownst to me) that he essentially becomes mute! If he does manage to muster out a few words his speech is very slurred. I had to carry him home to bed and would pop back out to continue the night on with my own friends on both occassions. boyfriend has never seen the issue with either night and doesn’t understand how it would embarrass me.

My friends were more than surprised when I revealed he was 32 and they were very quick to say he comes off as very young and immature. The last thing I want to do is introduce him to my immediate family out of fear he’ll embarrass me AGAIN!

His house is filthy and he’s spoilt! Mummy and daddy have paid his bills and insurances up until this August. When it came to paying his first electricity bill and car insurance renewal he was none the wiser and needed guided help. He has a degree in IT and software development.

He has been driving more than several years and inherited his car basically brand new. His dad always did the insurance and brought it to the garage for repairs and paid for them. Mummy has even offered to clean the house he also inherited several times but thankfully, boyfriend says no.

I asked him to help me clean his house one Sunday after I woke two hours early to get started and he give me the “you’re not my mum” and “stop annoying me” speech yet suggested another time I come out a day early to clean while he worked. The house is filthy, destroyed in mould, and smells of damp. Instead of buying new pillows for the bed, he wants to try and wash them first (despite being covered by mould and pillows being cheap).

Even when we text, he types like a child. He’s 32 but it’s still ‘bby’ not ‘baby’, ‘meh’ instead of ‘me’, and the conversation isn’t a whole pile of stimulating typically.

I went to a social gathering to network with other folks who travel solo or in group, basically to learn from each others experiences. This guy came up to me and started talking. Over the next 30 mins, he just went on and on about his job, his apartment that he owns and the three side businesses he runs. He also tried inquiring if I was interested in having kids later in my life. Basically, he was selling himself and trying to gauge if I fit in his "requirements". He happened to ask for my phone number and I gave it. I know that I have to learn to say no and I have decided what to do next time some guy asks and I'm not willing to give. Out of being polite, I just continued the conversation and at one point, I moved into a group of guys and girls to avoid talking to him one-on-one. I did notice that he was also exchanging numbers with another girl in the group. Seems like a player.

Anyways, so he texted me the time I shared my number and I didn't read those messages indicating to him that I'm not interested. He texted me again a few hours ago asking how my week is going and if I'm free for coffee on Sunday morning. I haven't opened the message to read it as it flashed on my phone screen and I was able to read it there. So, now he thinks that I haven't read his message.

I do not want to talk or meet him. Should I just ghost him? I know its not mature thing to do but I'm done being nice already.