TLDR: Friends of opposite genders, way too close to be considered normal friends and confusion as to if it’s still just a friendship.
I (M) have been friends with my best friend (F) for just under a year. When I first met her I quickly developed a crush on her but lost it and got over her when she got a boyfriend, but we stayed good friends.
A couple of weeks ago she broke up with her boyfriend because she was getting really tired of him complaining about me every time after she and I casually hung out. While we had grown closer, during her relationship I never questioned that all of it was completely platonic.
But now after her breakup it seems as if we’ve grown much closer much quicker, since we didn’t have to worry about making her boyfriend jealous anymore, with her jokingly saying we’ve become weirdly close for being just friends Saturday evening last weekend.
Last Thursday we hung out again and she casually mentioned a mutual friend of ours had bet her some money to make out with me and she claimed she would’ve done it if he had had the money on him, cause she knows him good enough to know he’d try not to pay up. On Friday when we went out for drinks as a group she asked that friend if he was still willing to pay (he was not). I spent the night at her house and before she went to sleep in her bed we cuddled on her futon where I was going to sleep, held hands a bit and talked during which we also mentioned how much we appreciate have each other as friends.
After she woke up the next morning she laid down next to me on the futon and tilted her head to lay it on my shoulder. When I woke up we cuddled a bit again with me first laying face up with my head on her stomach and her laughing cause my head went up and down with her breathing and later with me just laying on her chest all the while her stroking my hair.
At this point I’m just confused cause this is stuff fairly untypical for a platonic friendship and have no idea, if I should just ask what this is.
