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A long time ago when I used dating sites, I would receive introductory messages by men who would say something like, "I love your photo, tell me more about you," or just plain old, "Hi."

At first I chose not to reply to any of the men I had no interest in. But I would get many of them pestering me with, "I sent you a message. The least you can do is thank me for it instead of leaving me hanging."

So I considered this, and decided to give all men from that point the courtesy of a reply. My reply was, "Thank you for your message, but I don't believe we are compatible. Good luck with your search." Sometimes it was merely a "I received your message. Good luck with your search."

But then I was sent angry responses back such as, "What's your problem? / You don't even know me. / Yeah. No wonder you're single."

As you can tell, I was damned if I did, damned if I didn't.

Even though I'm out of the dating pool, this has often left me wondering how GaG members handled first-approach dating app messages? Do you believe you should send all who are interested a response of some sort? Or do you think you simply don't owe everyone a reply? What do you say or not say?

They approach US for dating or sex, they ask US to marry them. GUYS are the one paying random girls online just for being attractive. Guys have even given random women money in person JUST for being pretty to them. You don’t even HAVE to be pretty for a guy to approach you, they approach EVERYONE. So why is the blatant lie that women are supposed to be or ARE the submissive ones still going? Are approval is needed for EVERYTHING they want to do with us.