Dating

Could it really be I'm so pretty I scare guys away?

This sounds so arrogant but I promise I'm not. I'm actually very insecure and cry a lot about how I look. I'm convinced people are lying to me most of the time especially because of the extreme compliments they give me I just assume it's pity


But whenever I tell my friends, or even strangers how lonely I am they tell me that guys are scared to approach me. I do get approached but only by guys who have nothing to lose it seems. The type of guys I want never talk to me. And I'm not into guys who have a "perfect" physique or looks or whatever, my friends actually call me crazy a lot for the guys I like. I really like a specific type of music and a lot of the guys there are introverted and nerd (? I don't know if that's what you call it) type people themselves. I also don't look like I belong in that scene at all. Actually I never once fit in anywhere in my life. But people always preach to me how pretty I am and that guys are scared of me. But I feel like that can't be true. I have no perception of what I look like


I signed up on a dating site for the first time in my life two days ago. It has about 150 daily users and it's only for those type of people who like this specific music. I have 90 messages which you would think is good but it's all grown men over the age of 40 mostly who don't match the description of what I put in my bio about what I'm looking for at all. The guys I like look at my profile, sometimes several times but they never message me. I'm scared to message them because I'm scared I'll get ignored it would break my heart lol, I know they probably feel the same way but in my head they just looked at my profile and must have thought I look ridiculous or like a poser or something


Help? What can I do

Could it really be I'm so pretty I scare guys away?
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