Why do women like to act like all men care about sex and don't want to commit when they only hyperfocused on a small subset of men?

[Anonymous]

We see it all the time with dating data and real life interaction. In any given environment, there are always a small subset of guys that have most of the female attention and the rest of guys are scrambling to get anything. And it is even worse online, when you aren't just going up against guys in your area but men from other states/countries.

And yet, women act like they have a wide range of taste in men when they often pick the same group of men over and over; see definition for girl approval. This has become so common place that groups like "are we dating the same guy?" have millions of women all cross checking that they aren't banging the same dude. There is even this video of a black, female lawyer who found out that her and her friends had all hooked up with the same man.

So why don't women just be honest that they are over reaching for men beyond their stations? Just because your girlfriend and male simps say you are a perfect 10/10 does not mean you actually are. And the men you want are far out of your league. Guys, aren't turning down 5/10 for IG models and then saying all women are like this. Guys approach 3/10 to 10/10 and notice a pattern in behavior before making a generalized statement of female behavior. Women of course don't like this which is why they always try to deconstruct the argument into case by case basis and tell you that you can't generalize.

And the funny thing is when women actually switch up strategy and date the other group of men (aka not getting surplus of female attention), they often end up getting married to a good man who treats them right. Shocker.

[monorprise]

Most people today of both sexes have no idea what the population really looks like and what their realistic odds are.

Men are as bad as women in this regard the only difference is men will sleep with almost any woman (given others a chance), and have a little longer to figure out the truth.

Women by nature will hold out forever for the "right man" that meets the top 20% standard. As this pool of men being chased by 80% of women will quickly whittle down to ever more purely represent only the men who just want to be players.

The older a woman gets the fewer such men of the 20% she will encounter who is not a player.

The problem with both sexes is information as with everything else we are very much being lied by what we see which exclusively focuses on the unattainable. So we think the prettiest people in our civilization are actually just 'average'.

Anyone aware of this fact will target 'sub-average' and if they find anyone 'average' be very inquisitive as to why they are are on the market. They could have issues or have no intentions to settle.

This is as true of both sexes because both men and women have drastically misjudged the market.

[EricSummer]

On dating apps, only 20% of men get almost all the attention. This means that for most men dating apps are not useful.

It is better to go out and meet women in real life. In the end, most men get a woman. The average guy should have no problem finding a girlfriend. I realize it can be tough for the bottom 20%, though.

Red pillers are often whining that a solid average guy struggles with women today. They should not forget that the average guy stands 5'10'' tall and is not shy. Importantly, he will usually have to put in commitment to the woman to get her.

[Notfrommars]

My aunt married a man 15 years older than her and a lot less attractive than she was (he didn’t have more money either-they earned about the same) because she thought he would never cheat on her and he ended up leaving her for a younger woman. The guy who cheated on me was shorter than I was and though he was hot to me because I liked him, I remember a lot of my friends telling me “what do you see in him? He’s goofy-looking”-I don’t think he had a lot of luck with women but he was always persistent and the girl he cheated on me with was totally broke and needed a place to stay so he invited her to stay with him. I don’t think everybody who gets cheated on is chasing hot guys who everybody else wants

[HappyWoman34]

That’s so true. When I was young, I was an 8 or 9 but these hot guys that I hooked up with were losers. Now I am looking at nice guys. They’re still attractive and meet my requirements, but they’re not super handsome or cool. It is better to have a spark that simmers rather than burns.

[coachTanthony]

I feel bad for young men today. I didn't have the obstacles they did when I was at that age. Now the girl you went to HS with thinks she can probably date a Hollywood hunk all because that hunk might have liked something of theirs on Instagram when in fact it was just a bot that is working for their account lol

[Anonymous]

My friend, I am in Italy, in this country women are among the most pretentious in the world, here girls are obsessed with handsome, rich, famous, tall men, etc.

the reason why women are so pretentious is because there are so many men who are ready to flatter them, they receive attention all the time and this makes them overestimate their aesthetic value, so what they have to do is to choose the best one out of all of them, then there are many other biological and cultural reasons that only increase female pretentiousness.

[jennifer_bloom]

Female attraction is not like male attraction, male attraction is solid and standard and unmoving while female attraction can grow or decreases based on the behaviour of the men she knows or the man she is dating. Nature designed females to shift in their attraction based on the man's behaviour so that men could marry women that are not initially attracted to them. HIs behaviour might might flex or change his options if he is realistic and kind.

[patrick994]

Women are only and exclusively attracted to men who are tall, with an athletic physique and a handsome face, then of course character also counts, but aesthetics take the lead, women have the burden of pregnancy, I don't think they choose unattractive men.

[inhua]

80% of men are invisible to women. this ranges from the normies, nerds and dorks at school to the construction worker, the garbage collector, the sewerage cleaner, the McDonald's cashier, the factory worker, the undercover cop, the truck driver, the taxi driver, the male nurse, any other blue-collar worker as long as he's not considered hot

[inhua]

people truly think because Leonardo Di Caprio can pull a new girlfriend every time he dumps his current girlfriend that somehow every other man can do the same

[Curmudgeon]

The Apex Fallacy: they only pursue a "top tier" of men who use them and discard them. They assume all men are like that, when the vast lower tiers of men would not do that at all. However, they either do not notice those lower tier men or are contemptuous of them.

[Chthou95]

Because women are delusional. They really do not realize that the men they're hyper focused on are wanted by other women. Social media also plays a big part in this. Women get bombarded with attention left n right and think they deserve the highest caliber of men. But these caliber men are full of all the toxix traits they complain about but yet still take a chance with them

[Anonymous]

Yeah, they act like all men only care about having sex and not being in a relationship , yet I don’t understand what the problem is , is that saying that women don’t like sex anyway? Are they not going to give men sex that are committed to them anyway? I do want to relationship with a woman and I do like sex so I don’t understand what the problem is. If men didn’t like sex, do you know how many single women there would be?

[DizzyDesii]

I mean…

[Anonymous]

“We see it all the time.”

You obviously only see what you want to see.

[mandyfire98]

This

[grega239]

@mandyfire98 this doesn't explain the statistics gathered by dating apps

[Pohjolan]

Well we certainly see it on GAG.
Women complain here about fuckboys while they are the ones who specifically choose to date them.

[mandyfire98]

@grega239

Get off dating apps. Go meet real people. Join social groups to meet people. Find hobbies where you meet people. Get off of the internet. People behave differently in the real world. Dating apps are trash.

You're gathering statistics from something that most people don't want to even fool with because they think it's a scam or strictly for hookups.

All your gonna find online is men hating women and women complaining about men. If you take online seriously then you get what you fucking deserve. Go live life.

[grega239]

@mandyfire98 hobbies you say.

I dont know any women who are into video games, airsoft or going on potentially fatal climbs.

I tried socializing. Never was able to get a woman interested.

The straw that broke the camels back happend last year.
This is what happend
-went for drinks with guy friends
-we met 2 women and joined the table
-after a few drinks, one of them called a girl friend of her
-when she was asked who all is there, she mentioned every one of my friends by their name except me.

The fact that she didn't even mention me, made me realize i have no chance.
Thats how i found my way into statistics which only backed up my current belief.

I dont hate women, but the rejection, ignoring and straight up abuse from women made me mostly indifferent towards them to the point i dont even introduce myself unless they do it first.

I do live life. I just do it alone

[mandyfire98]

Ok so 2 women didn't acknowledge you? So you give up?

Also every woman ignores you? Every woman you come across whether it's at school or work or in public doesn't even acknowledge you at all? I find that hard to believe.

Women are abusing you now?
How are they abusing you?

If you are purposefully looking up stuff to bolster your "women bad" point of view you're gonna find all kinds of stuff on the internet. Most propaganda.

It's the same as if I searched out "all men are trash" viewpoints. I could find all kinds of "statistics" to back up my point of view. Doesn't mean that's what it's really like.

Do you think maybe that you might have some deep deep rooted insecurities that might be making you retreat to the internet to live in your "statistics" bubble and your comfort zone?

We have to socialize in this world. We are all social creatures. We have to get out and deal with people.

[grega239]

@mandyfire98 no.
I said those 2 broke the camels back.
Which means there were many before them.
They acknowlegde me at work because they have to. doesn't count.

Yes in public. I never get a call or a text.

I guess the waitress at the bar acknowlegdes me when she takes my order.

Yes. Women have abused me in the past. They aren't doing it now because there aren't any in my life.

How that happend is too much of a novel for me to bother writing it.

I wasn't purposseully looking for women bad. I cane across these topics when i was looking for an explanation of why women treat me the way they do.
I know a lot of them are bs. Some aren't though and make sense.

Im sure most women aren't "rotten apples" i might have just been unlucky and got a basket full of them.

My deep insecurities... You mean my depression, paranoia and inferiority complex given to me by my exes?

Ok lets leaves statistics and internet on the side for a bit and you explain to me how fuckboys who do drugs and drink every weekend, are cheating and are abusive better than someone who isn't?

I've played therapist for women who cried about these types.

How do you expect me to not have insecurities if women keep dating these fuck ups?
Obviously im gonna have insecurities because it gives me the impression im lower that these guys even though its objectively demonstrable that im not.

I've had coworkers like that and their skill and work ethic was almost laughably pathetic and yet they all had women in their lives.

Hope that explains why i dont leave my comfort zone and why i dont want to deal with women anymore unless its necessary

[mandyfire98]

Not all women date these "bad boy" types. That's such a huge huge stereotype. Yet something else showed likely on the internet by redpill bullshit groups and incels. I don't know any woman personally that I've met who have dated drug dealers or drug addicts and none of them were abused. All of my friends have always dated decent guys even if those relationships didn't work out they were still decent guys.

I'm sorry but that "all women like bad boys and hate nice guys" is so full of shit at this point. It's pretty much meme territory. I'm not letting that played out stereotype pass.

I can buy that you don't get attention like you'd want. I understand that. I can believe some women in the past might have been rude to you. Humans can be rude.

The women loving only bad boys is a meme at this point though. It's not true.

If you have women in your life that are dating drug dealers and addicts and that abuse them constantly, then I'd say you need to find a new crowd to hangout with.

I don't know a woman at all that dates abusive men.

Maybe it's where you come from. Maybe it's your area or culture 🤷‍♀️ that shit don't fly where I'm from.

I would suggest maybe if you aren't already, going to therapy though. I personally see some very deep rooted issues just from your replies that need to be addressed. Your issues aren't getting better. They're only gonna get worse.

[grega239]

@mandyfire98 i brought up the "bad boy" not because I've seen it on the net. I've seen it in real life. Maybe it was the area. But it doesn't matter now.

Therapy is expensive. And its not fit for men as its currently practiced. Talking works for women.
You may have seen that lately successfull men have been advocating going to the gym.

For me, gym is boring. My therapy is video games, the bow i bought and physically exhauting myself.

My issues aren't getting worse. They are improving slowly.

[mandyfire98]

Good luck to you.

[love_conquers_lust]

Stop pushing anti-white male bull shit, asshole.

[Anonymous]

Honestly? Because it's that subset that they are attracted to. "Everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die".😆

[KrakenAttackin]

Because women are not rational.

[kukukuku323]

Sounds like projection.

[Anonymous]

Responsibility is not something they like.